Exercise in Passing a Positive Attitude

Our attitudes are what draw people to us because people want to be around other people with whom they feel great. When you have a positive attitude and look for good in all people and situations, good and happiness likely follow. Being a positive person means you are open and you see the good in everything. You naturally attract others to you because you are hopeful, optimistic, and fun and people want to have the great time in life you do! Attitude is actually a creative cycle that begins with your choice of thoughts. You do choose your thoughts and that choice is where your attitude originates. As you internalize ideas and become emotionally involved with your thoughts, you move your entire being - mind and body - into a new "vibration." Your conscious awareness of this vibration is referred to as “feeling.” Your feelings are then expressed in actions or behaviors that produce the various results in your life.

Another benefit of having a positive attitude is that positive things happen to you. When you decide you are going to be glad, glad you are. It’s a choice. You choose to be glad. When you choose glad, things happen to you that will make you feel glad.

Attitude and results are inseparable. Positive results are always the effect of a positive attitude. One is the cause, the other, the result, discussed since at least the time of Aristotle as causality, or The Law of Cause and Effect. Simply stated related to Being WUCA!, if you think in negative terms, you will get negative results; if you think in positive terms you will achieve positive, successful results. Our thought leads action and delivers our result.

Choose Your Attitude in 4 Steps

Everyone chooses their attitude. Attitude is a choice. For everything in life, there is a certain way of:

  • Thinking
  • Believing
  • Acting

Happiness is a choice. It is a conscious choice that you make every day. You either choose to be happy or you choose not to be happy.

You have to think first, “I am going to be happy today,” then believe that it is possible to be happy in all things today. After you have thought you will be happy and believe you can be happy, choose to act like you are happy.

Think about Eeyore on Winnie the Pooh. Eeyore could look you right in the eye and say, “I am happy” but his voice and his actions tell you differently, so what he does reinforces his unhappiness. Eeyore is not a happy donkey. Life is unfair to him. He is miserable. Everyone around him miserable.

Eeyore is what I like to call a “Crap Magnet,” where everything close to him has a crappy attitude.

Want to be happy? Try this exercise.

1. Identify a negative belief that you have. It can be anything from your work, family, any situation that you think will never get better.

2. Define how it limits you. What does it stop you from doing?

3. Decide how you want to feel and act. Think about the end. How do you wish that you would feel and act if the belief was not there?

4. Create a turnaround statement you can read every day that reflects how you want the end result to be. Start the statement with “I am…” e.g. “I am choosing to be happy today and I am building civility in all relationships.”

It is time to quit waiting for:

  • Perfection
  • Inspiration
  • Permission
  • Reassurance
  • Someone to change
  • The right person to come along
  • The kids to leave home
  • The pain to go away
  • A new administration to take over
  • An absence of risk
  • Someone to discover you
  • A clear set of instructions
  • More self-confidence

What are you waiting for? 

Choose to have a positive attitude and choose to be happy. Do whatever it takes.

As Larry the Cable Guy would say, “Get “er” Done!!”

Let us know what happens and if you need some help!

Choose Your Portal

I was watching my nephews play a video game over the weekend and I started to reflect upon what I did learn. (Yes, you can learn something from a video game.) Every time they wanted to get to a different level to get a prize that would give them more points and chances to get to a higher level, they had to create a portal in a wall.

A portal is the path or, the hole, they create to get them through a wall. It's like a door, except it can be created anywhere.

So now I am thinking of decisions as portals that get us to a different level of life. Every decision holds an infinite number of possibilities in front of us. Whether a decision is big or small, either will change our life. Maybe even determine our future.

Think about a decision that you recently have made. What has happened to you because of that decision?

Who have you met? Who has been in your life? What have been the financial effects? Are you better off or worse off?

What was the greatest lesson you learned from that decision? What relationship did that decision improve? Would you make that decision again?

Each choice we make takes us through a portal. Sometimes we don't know what's on the other side when we enter. Some choices turn out the way that we'd would like them to turn out and some don’t. Some choices are good. Some are not.

The portals we choose to walk through can have long-lasting outcomes for us and the rest of the world. When we make them, we do know if it's a moral decision, sending us down a path that affects other people, areas of our life, other events that happen in the world, and we have to live with the outcome.

What would have happened if Mr. Washington never met the future Mrs. Washington? George would not have ever come into existence.

What would the world be like if Bill Gates had decided it was too hard to try and sell this idea of a computer in every house because IBM said there was no need for every household to own a computer?

How about Walt Disney giving up because he had dyslexia?

Marianne Williamson said, “As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give permission to other people to do the same.”

Making good choices is lifelong. Listen to advice, but choose your own portal. You will change the world, depending upon the portal you create.

Remember The Be WUCA! Way formula to drive your CAR: C + A = R.

Your Circumstances + Your Actions = Your Results

Portals are choices for us and the world. Let your light shine!

 

Welcome - It is All About Attitude

Victor Frankl once wrote, "Everything can be taken from a person but one thing: the last of human freedoms - to choose one's attitudes in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." Frankl was right. Attitude is a choice. You could be faced with a thousand problems, many or most over which you have absolutely no control. However, there is always one thing you are in complete and absolute control of and that is your own attitude. When you surrender control of your attitude to what appears to be a negative situation, you will react to that situation. More often than not, reacting is inappropriate. On the other hand, if you were to remain objective, you would respond to the situation appropriately, thereby creating a winning situation.

Attitude is the composite of your thoughts, feelings and actions. Your conscious mind controls feeling and ultimately dictates whether your feelings will be positive or negative by your choice of thoughts, then your body displays those choices through action and behavior.

Attitude is actually a creative cycle that begins with your choice of thoughts. You do choose your thoughts and that choice is where your attitude originates. As you internalize ideas or become emotionally involved with your thoughts, you create the second stage in forming an attitude; you move your entire being - mind and body - into a new "vibration." Your conscious awareness of this vibration is referred to as "feeling". Your feelings are then expressed in actions or behaviors that produce the various results in your life.

Positive results are always the effect of a positive attitude. Attitude and results are inseparable. They follow one another like night follows day. What I mean by that is: one is the cause, the other, the result. There is a term we use to distinguish this "cause and effect" relationship, it is called The Law of Cause and Effect. Simply stated, if you think in negative terms, you will get negative results; if you think in positive terms you will achieve positive results. Ralph Waldo Emerson reiterated that same point when he said, "A person is what they think about all day long." The results you achieve in life are nothing more than an expression of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. Take a close look at your life and evaluate the results you are achieving in various areas. See if you are able to relate your attitude to your results.

Winning and losing are opposite sides of the same coin - and that coin is attitude. There are many things wrong in this world; unfortunately that is all some people are able to see. Those who view the world in this light are often unhappy and somewhat cynical. Usually, their life is one of lack and limitation and it almost appears as if they move from one bad experience to another. I know people who are like this and I'm certain you do as well. It would appear as if they were born with a streak of bad luck and it has followed them around their whole life. These individuals are quick to blame circumstances or other people for their problems, rather than accepting responsibility for their life and their attitude.