All People Want to Feel Appreciated

The "A" in WUCA! means "Appreciate." You may NEVER get a second chance to tell a person what they mean to you. Take every opportunity to tell someone how much you Appreciate them and how much good they bring to others.

As the clock counts down another year, we often reflect and feel the need to make some personal changes. We want life to be fun and light, not held back by grudges, anger, hate. As the "A" in WUCA! is how to express Appreciation, one action you can take is to show gratitude and forgive others in a unique and lasting way.

To lighten your heart-load, try writing a living eulogy to three people: someone you appreciate (they might be gone soon), someone who has "done you wrong" (let it go), and yourself (you must love and appreciate yourself if you expect others to love and appreciate you).

1) A living person you appreciate. Let a living person know just what they mean to you while they can hear/read the words. You choose the delivery method, with the goal to touch their heart in a very Be WUCA! Way to feel their life matters, has value, and meaning. Do it now - you may never get a second chance to tell a person what they mean to you. 

My story with my daughter, Erin, is here, it is "Why" we teach how to build great relationships. 

http://www.bewuca.com/blog/my-why?rq=why 

2) A person who has "done you wrong." The point of this writing is to release your pain. Think about the experience/s you've had with this person and write honestly, from your heart, ways you can forgive or appreciate them. If you do this exercise, you know the circumstances and whether it's wise to deliver what you've written. If not advisable, write it out and store or destroy the document and feel good you've let go of feelings whose tight grip may have stifled you. Feel GREAT and allow yourself to move on.

3) Yourself. What's on your heart you need to jettison to go forward free of guilt, shame, remorse, sadness? You're an incredible person - think of how amazing you'll feel when you lift that weight!

But where to begin? Here are some tips.

  • Praise the person and their wonderful characteristics.
  • You could include a condensed life history, details about family, friends, work/career, interests, achievements, favorite memories, favorite poems, songs, quotes, or religious writings, and recall your own memories.
  • Organize notes and drafts on a computer, plain paper, note cards, video - whatever method is most comfortable and familiar to you.
  • You decide the tone. Some  prefer serious, while others may want to keep it light. A mix of both, solemnity and humor, is usually best to allow the receiver to share in the celebration of a life. Their life.
  • Write in your own voice - the same way you would normally talk. Don't get bogged down by the formalities - your reader will want to feel like you are talking to them from your heart, not a script.
  • Deliver in the best way for the person and situation. If you're writing for yourself, celebrate YOU!

The most touching and meaningful eulogies are written from the heart - it doesn't have to be perfect. Whatever you write will be appreciated. Writing a eulogy is truly an honor for a person - your words will paint a picture through the memories, anecdotes, and stories you tell of their impact on Earth. 

One day, the person you appreciate won't be there. Take your chance. Do it now!!

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Purpose of Breath of Purpose

"And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and man became a living being."Genesis 2:7. Have you ever witnessed someone dying? Watching him or her take their last breath of life?

Nothing changes except they don’t breathe in any more. They exhale one last time.

I was with my wife and brother-in-law in the room with their father, my father-in-law, during his last moments here on earth. It was a very peaceful death. In fact the nurse said that she has never see anyone die this peacefully with end-stage COPD. It can be a very violent suffocating type of death.

As we were surrounding him with love and giving him permission to go, we watched. We watched him breathe in and out, looking at the vacant stare in his eyes in his last hours of life with labored breathing increasingly less and less. We looked at him to see if his chest would expand again, watching with anticipation, but praying that this was the end of his suffering. It was.

At his last moment of his life, he looked us in the eyes and breathed his last. An exhale. He was finally at peace.

But what does this have to do with the breath of life?

Everything!

When you are born – your first human action is to take a huge breath of air. That breath gets everything going. The sound of your cry, or maybe a scream, is a huge blessing and one of the happiest moments for a parent!

That breath is the foundation of moving, speaking, feeling, smelling, and the basis of all that you learn. With that breath, life begins. Without that breath, life ends.

I believe God gives you that breath of life. God provides that breath as the Holy Spirit within you. I believe that breath is your proof that God exists within you and you and God are connected.

When my father-in-law exhaled for the last time, nothing changed. His body was still there, but there was no life. There was no movement; he didn't see smell things anymore, he didn't feel anything anymore. His life was gone but his body was still there.

We are using these shells we call bodies to live inspired lives, as Dr. Wayne Dyer believes, "We are spiritual beings having a human experience." God knows when we have fulfilled His purpose on this earth, then He calls us home, leaving our shell.

God gives us life and a purpose. It is up to us to discover that purpose and become aligned with it. Those who live with passion, full of life, and on purpose, are those who will hear when they are called home, “Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!”  Matthew 25:21

God blesses us with others, and puts others in our way to fulfill His purpose and the purpose he gave us to fulfill in our life.

He uses breath to accomplish that purpose. He gives us breath to allow Him to work through us. He gives Breath to live in us. It is our responsibility to live that purpose, using the blessings that we have received to help others live their purpose. This is the true cycle of life.

"It was now about the sixth hour and darkness came over the whole land until the ninth hour, for the sun stopped shining. And the curtain of the temple was torn in two. Jesus called out with a loud voice, 'Father, into your hands I commit my Spirit.' When he had said this, he breathed his last." Luke 23:44 – 46.

It was done. His purpose had been fulfilled.

What about you? Are you using your body as a temple? A God-given shell that is full of life, full of spirit, breathing in and out God’s energy? Are you living on purpose?

You are connected to life in a way in which you can flourish. I choose to live with the knowledge that God is with me, in me, and also in you.