What you believe directs your life. What song do you sing?

Do you remember what it was like when you were a kid; when you believed that you could be anything you wanted when you grew up? When you believed you could do anything? The possibilities were endless! What was your dream?

 You could be a policeman or woman. A doctor. An astronaut. A master gardener!

 You believed that anything was possible.

 And it was.

 You didn't have any doubts or judgments.

You didn't see all the reasons "why not." You just saw the "What if?"

 Do you still believe that you can be anything you want and have everything you daydream about?

 Why not?  What happened?

 Why don't we still believe money grows on trees?

Why don't we still believe that we can have it all?

Why don't we still believe that we are worthy enough?

Why do we see all the reasons why it won't work, or why we can't do it, or why it's not possible?

 It's not your fault that you believe this way.

As we've lived life, other people told us that a certain thing isn't possible. We've been told that money doesn't grow on trees, you have to work hard, life is a struggle, you aren't good enough, or smart enough, or attractive enough. Our beliefs changed.

At first, we didn't believe them. We were still kids at heart and thought we could have it all. But then we tried and failed.

And the more we tried (or saw others try) and fail, we started adopting those beliefs as "truths" or "facts." Through the years, they became our beliefs. We started saying and believing:

Money doesn't grow on trees.

I'm not good enough.

I'm not smart enough.

Nothing ever works out for me.

Other people are just lucky.

Life is hard.

The list goes on.

Well, we're here to tell you that's not the truth! Just because someone else's voice sings that song doesn't make it true for you. That's not who you are! You are so much more valuable and have so much more to offer! These messages, these songs, are other peoples' old, worn out, self-sabotaging beliefs. If these are the tunes singing in your head, are you still pursuing your dream?

Every action you take and decision you make is a result of your beliefs. You CAN change your beliefs to change your life, but you must be intentional and determined every day - sometimes every SECOND of every day - to direct your life where you want to go.

Your beliefs literally control your life. What song are you singing? With whom are you hanging out? What song do they sing? Do the people in your life cheer you on? Maybe you could use and appreciate some new cheerleaders who will encourage you and help you see who you truly are and the possibilities that are waiting for you!

With a happy outlook, a positive attitude, an encouraging support system, and "I can do it" beliefs in place, you will change your life and your future through your own actions. You can make decisions that will allow you to live the life you want - a life of freedom and joy! Bring back your childhood optimism, sing your own song, and go after your dream!

When You Dream Big, Big Things Happen

Big ideas grow even bigger when they're discussed and mulled over in a relaxed setting that's completely separate of a conference room or boardroom. In fact, many of the best ideas I've created have come from driving down the road, doodling, brainstorming with my wife, and looking out the window. Dreams are the vehicle that is used to move innovation forward. Dreams are your internal want list. What would happen to your life if you made your dreams your internal "To Do" list?

Here is another place where you can work on your dream, an amazing event and an amazing opportunity for you to realize your big dream.

Big Dream Gatherings, http://www.bigdreamgathering.com/, let you share your dreams in a safe and positive environment. What type of dreams do you have? Are you embarrassed by your dreams? How about letting them become your inspiration?

Here is one story of a friend of mine who attended a Big Dream Gathering. Tami shares her big dream to make big things happen.

My dear friend, Shannessy (Schultes) Michaels, invited me to my first Big Dream Gathering in West Des Moines in May of 2010.

Tami and Shannessy at the BIG Dream Gathering in May, 2010
Tami and Shannessy at the BIG Dream Gathering in May, 2010

 

I was at a real low point in my life - one might even call it a pit. The major battle on that day was recovery from a mastectomy & reconstruction after being diagnosed with breast cancer in 2009. This would have been a “do-able” hurdle but my breast cancer diagnosis came two months after I had a thyroid tumor removed…and the thyroid tumor had been preceded by two surgeries related to be diagnosed with melanoma in the spring of 2008. The kicker was that all of these “storms” hit about 18 months after my husband of 16 years was killed.

Now, before everyone gets all “oh, my goodness” on me, let me clarify:

  • First, today I am cancer-free.
  • Second, God has been very good to me and my two children (aged 14 and 11 when their dad died).

We were blessed with amazing friends and family and the kindness of perfect strangers.

That being said, I must admit, by May of 2010, I felt like I had been hit by a bus…and then the bus had backed up. When Shannessy invited me to the BDG, I was hesitant, but it’s hard to say “no” to Shannessy. She told me that it was a wonderful exercise in faith–even if my “dreams” didn’t come true right away, the act of putting them on paper for people to see is a spiritual experience.

I told a friend that I was going. He asked, “What’s your big dream?” I wasn’t sure. He reminded me it wasn’t the “Average Dream Gathering."

I began to allow myself the luxury of dreaming again.

I had been so focused on my kids and supporting them that I had left little time in the day or in my life for dreaming. So, I went to the “Big Dream Gathering."

I remember sitting at the table and looking at the blank form thinking, “My

BIG Dream Gathering in May, 2010
BIG Dream Gathering in May, 2010

 

dreams don’t seem as “BIG” as others I’ve read. Maybe they aren’t big enough” (code for: not important enough to articulate) But I wrote them down and posted them - and have been forever changed. Not because they have manifested, but because I surrendered to the still small Voice that said: “They are YOUR dreams…and that’s BIG."

One of the dreams I posted that day was to find a job as a dental hygienist in an office that had health insurance benefits. I had been working as a fundraising director since my husband’s death. One of the gifts he gave to me before he died was his insistence that I pursue a bachelor’s degree in dental hygiene from Creighton University. Two years after receiving that degree, he was gone. I took a job that had benefits so I could be close to my children while they were in school. It was a God-thing, because seven months after I started, my melanoma was diagnosed. But now it was time to move on and I longed to get back into dentistry.

So, I posted my dream, and last July, I began working as a dental hygienist again - with health benefits!

But the biggest big dream was one I wasn’t sure I could throw out there.

I could hardly let myself think about it, let alone post it for all of West Des Moines to see. After a long meeting with the “committee in my head," I wrote it down.

My biggest big dream was/is to be obedient to God and ask him to bring me a Jesus Freak, musician-type, knight-in-shining-armor soul mate!

After nearly five years of widowhood, I would like to fall in love again.

Yikes! I had said it. And I guess I said it again here.

I have to admit–my life hasn’t been the same since posting my big dreams on those walls in West Des Moines a year ago. People on the outside might not notice it. I haven’t found a cure for cancer. I haven’t adopted children from a war-torn country.

I HAVE been able to see my life and my world through different eyes.

Through the eyes of a dreamer.

And who knows? Maybe I will team up with my new mate, find a cure for cancer AND adopt children from a war-torn country and change the world!

Thank you for letting me dream with you!

- Tami Petersen-Trewet