Spillers on the HiMama Podcast for Early Care and Education

Episode 64: Be "WUCA": Welcome, Understand, Comfort, Appreciate

Frank Spillers wants you to create a classroom environment where people (children, administrators, educators) can be engaged. "Be WUCA to yourself and the people you work with". Spillers works with different childcare providers to help them identify engagement techniques and helps them to be happy in the work they do. He often asks "Are you passionate about kids?" - if the answer is no, then Spillers says they're doing more damage to the sector than you are helping. When we have engaged people working with children, their impact is far reaching. "People will stay where they are appreciated and where they feel welcome".

 

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Bullying in the Schools Will End When the Adults Stop Bullying Each Other.

To Be WUCA! is to Welcome, by having a great attitude; Understand, by listening and being open to other’s ideas; being Comfortable in knowing your own passion, purpose, vision, and goals; and Appreciating by expressing gratitude. It is a simple idea. Maybe too simple, because this is not what I see people living.

This is why I am more than a little perplexed at blaming youth for bullying.

Yes, they do need to take responsibility for their actions and yes, we do have a problem with bullying.

But are we focusing on the root cause?

Look around!

All I have to do is look in my email inbox or on my Facebook page to see each political party calling people in the other party names, or women telling men and men telling women that each other’s opinion does not matter, signs and sayings that people post inferring that when people think a certain way, they are somehow un-American or un-Christian, or that if you are not born in this country you are not paying taxes and using all of our services for free.

Have you been watching the presidential campaigns? It is no wonder that we have kids that bully.

We have grown men, who want to be President of this nation and represent all of us, calling each other “liar” and pointing fingers telling them that what they think and what they do is wrong. Politicians shout on television and radio waves saying others are “stupid” for stopping “this idea” from going forward.

And people send money to support this type of behavior.

When adults in communities gossip in coffee shops or in beauty parlors about how so-and-so got to the top by lying and cheating, are they simply jealous of someone’s success? The message is they want to see other people fail.

Or radio talk show hosts and writers hiding behind "free speech" call others derogatory names.

What kind of modeling are we doing as adults? Do we say, “If your values are not like mine, you are wrong?”

Back to students.

Our schools are reflections of our communities: test scores, people on free and reduced lunch, bullying, lack of motivation, and lack of respect for teachers are examples of community life.

Kids are blamed on how big a problem bullying is in schools with when all you may have to do is look within the families and the community.

What is the matter with kids today? Look to the adults that model behavior.

What is the answer to bullying?

Adopt a Be WUCA! strategy in your family, community, church, and school - in all areas of your life! Live to

 Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate others.

We’ll be amazed at the turnaround this country will see.

Get Your Head in the Game

One of the biggest challenges in meeting any goal, whether it be related to productivity, waking early, changing a habit, exercising, or just becoming happier, is finding the motivation to stick with it.

 If you can stick with a goal for long enough, you’ll almost always get there eventually. It just takes patience and motivation. Motivation is the key, but it’s not always easy, day in and day out, to find that motivation.

One way to get you there quicker, is with another person, a coach.

A goal-setting coaching process that will help you to understand the “why” and the “how” goals are achieved. If you have ever wanted to achieve that "magic" weight; if you have ever wanted to have the endurance; if you have ever wanted to earn a grade; if you have ever wanted to achieve any goal, then even before you even start your program, you will want to give yourself a “head” start to achieving your goals!

Individuals in all circumstances can and will reach any goal that they want to achieve - it all starts in your mind.  So, participate and “Get your Head in the Game” and focus to achieve your goals. Motivation is the key!

Coaching sessions include:

  • “It all starts with passion, purpose, vision, and action.”

  • “Understanding how your mind directs you to achieve your goals.”

  • “Identifying your passion to achieve your goal

  • "Remove any mind blocks that keep you from achieving your goals."

  • “Start with the end in mind and create a realistic goal for yourself.”

  • "Overcoming negative mind-chatter."

  • "Replacing the negative with the positive."

It does not matter where you are in life - high school, college, young, old, amateurs or professional; we all need help at times. We all get in our heads and can't see the victories that lie before us.

Take action and move aside the stumbling block in your head! Become the person that you want to become and "Get Your Head in the Game" to win!

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Responsible Citizenship and Change

WUCA!-led communities are more open-minded, approachable, tend to have more newcomers, and they allow new people to make new ideas happen. Studies show U.S. state populations seeing growth have a higher percentage of newcomers than native-borns. A rural community that I once worked with told about a person who had moved to that community within the last two years. With three children enrolled in the district, she was at a school board meeting, and stood up to share her opinions on the issue at hand.

When she sat down, the lady next to her turned and told her that she had no right to talk at this meeting. The shocked woman asked why not. The woman replied that “she hadn’t lived here long enough.” Though she had children in the school, she'd only lived in the community a brief amount of time which, apparently, equaled her value and ability to contribute. In our town, we know people who moved to our community 30 years ago who still don’t feel they belong because their grandparents aren’t buried in the local cemetery.

As a leader, you need to look at your policies. Are they welcoming? As communities, counties, and states, do you allow newcomers to move in and do you embrace them? Yes, leaders love it when new companies come to town. There’s a ribbon-cutting for a new business,  a rousing welcome to all the new people to town, then, in a month, the excitement dies down and the new people that the community was excited about become  “those” new people with all those “strange” new ideas. Or sometimes you hear comments when they become successful, they must have done something “wrong” and “underhanded” to gain that accomplishment. Communities and people in general, have a habit of trying to pull successful people down to their level because there is a tendency to not like people who are doing better than they are because they have such low self-esteem.

Really, we often only like change if the change doesn’t affect us.

The result is that the future remains the same because people often refuse to take their role as responsible citizens to make change that is necessary. It’s hard work. It is messy. It requires talking to people. It requires acknowledging the world is not as black and white as we thought. Change requires slogging through the “gray” of an issue to see it through the eyes of another’s experience. Change requires that we may have to give up our way and do it someone else’s.

Remember that for every result that you want, there is a certain way of thinking, believing, and acting. You can change without improving, but you cannot improve without changing.

For your community, school, workplace, and organization to become "WUCA!-ized" contact kim@ghorizons.com

Frank and Kimberlee Spillers are the co-authors of "The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along." Available at www.bewuca.com

 

Create Wealth The Be WUCA! Way

The best way to lead a great team is to create an environment that encourages individuals to communicate better, deal with others better, and help people like and trust each other better. Effective leaders realize that the thin line between fitting in and being welcomed is so close to feeling excluded and left out.

Effective leaders know that people want to belong somewhere. In a group. At work. At the worship center. In families. With friends! If you know you can use some help in this leadership area in your relationships, you're in good company.

When effective leaders lead The Be WUCA! Way, wealth is created in many different forms.

What comes to mind when you think of creating wealth? A room full of gold? Vacations? A new car? Bills paid off so you feel wealthy? The newest phone or device? These certainly can be pictures of building or having wealth.

Much larger than the economic sense, creating wealth is the act of building a person’s knowledge, experience, and abilities to build sustainability in community. When you create wealth with The Be WUCA! Way foundation of leadership, you create opportunities for all people to belong, participate in, and contribute.

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"Best training we have had in more than 13 years!"

When you create wealth The Be WUCA! Way, you change the way you look at things. You create wealth and healthy environments when you build people up, focus on making their lives better, and help others become what they dream about. You become a more effective leader when you encourage people The Be WUCA! Way, when you Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate yourself and others. You will enjoy a sense of belonging!

Wealth creation begins with positive, forward-thinking, people-centered leadership making things happen! An effective leader will guide in identifying people’s passion and purpose because this is what really motivates us to perform, get things done, and do our very best work!

An effective leader will communicate a big-picture vision, assist to establish doable goals, and create an environment to achieve each and every one using and building people's talents along the way.

An effective leader allows - encourages - an individual to grow. When your words and actions build people, you will automatically strengthen businesses, create successful schools, excite communities, families, and organizations.

With effective leadership The Be WUCA! Way comes business and community growth because life will really be humming along and people will respond! Leaders set goals, always looking for and creating new pathways for people to engage. They generate new ways of seeing and acting on both persistent and emerging challenges that offer the possibility for change and authentic hope.

How do you rate your wealth creation? Do people feel they "belong" in your presence? Are you a good leader? Want to be a great leader?

Wherever you are in the world, your business, workplace, school, community, family, and organization will prosper when you put The Be WUCA! Way principles to work.

Learn to use them. Live them. You'll see a dramatic difference of wealth creation in your life! Step into being and creating leadership The Be WUCA! Way.

Drive your CAR The WUCA! Way

Have you ever walked to your car and started it, expecting it to take you to your destination all by itself? Of course not. You need to drive it. You need to know beforehand where you are going.

What does this mean for your life? Your business? Your family? Your workplace?

Ladies and Gentlemen! Start Your Engines!

Let me introduce you to the new and improved model of "The WUCA! Car."

WUCA CAR

WUCA CAR

Stylish and sleek with integrity built in. Fully responsive to your actions. With bumper to bumper elegance that will passionately get you to your destination successfully with purpose.

When you drive your Be WUCA! CAR, the first thing you do is to think about the Result you want. Your destination. Where you want to end up. This step is nearly always within your power to determine. Many things you can think about ahead of time, so you have an automatic response - like your attitude getting out of bed in the morning. What kind of day do you want? Think ahead on this.

Identify your Circumstance. In whatever circumstance you are experiencing in life, what is happening to you? What are you thinking about related to a circumstance? Do you want to change anything about it? This has less certainty to it, as circumstances can change and are often beyond our control. But you often can still think ahead what may come your way.

What is completely within your control, however, is how you Act. Depending on what you've identified as your end result, you act on your circumstance to get the result you desire. You drive your CAR.

C = Circumstance

A= Action

R = Result

Just as if taking a trip, you map out the route that will get you where you want to end up in the amount of time you are planning.

Once you map out your route, you make sure that you have your car serviced. Do you have gas and oil? Are the fluid levels where they need to be? How is the tire pressure? All of these things should be checked before you start on your way.

In your life, is your mind serviced with the passion and training you need? Are the results you want within your purpose? If they are, then you are ready to drive your Be WUCA! CAR.

Just mapping out your trip and visualizing where you want to go does not get you there. You have to put your CAR into drive, step on the gas, and steer the CAR down the right road.

Will you run into road closures or road under construction sometimes?

Yes!

But when you do, there is always a way around it called a detour. (When one door closes, another one opens.)

Will your car need additional service; put gas in it?

Yes!

You will always need to stop for gas - additional training and get your rest.

Align your CAR and balance your tires - spend time with family, play, and develop friends.

And make time for tune-ups, like read books and articles, to make you a better person. Take additional training to help you reach your destination. Work with a Life Coach. Create a Mastermind group that will keep you on the road to success.

When you keep your foot on the gas and your Be WUCA! CAR is moving forward, you will reach your desired destination. You just have to:

Identify your Circumstances.

Act to map out your routes.

Choose where you will drive to get the Result you want to achieve success.

It is all up to you. You get to choose where you want to end up and what attitude you want while you are driving in your new WUCA! CAR.

BEEP!! BEEP!!!

Want to learn more? Schedule The Be WUCA! Way environmental specialist to show you how to improve your environment. You will learn The ART of getting along. kim@ghorizons.com  www.bewuca.com   http://goo.gl/UjF8L 

Be WUCA! for Schools - Coaching in the Classroom

Our experiences hiring high school and young adult workers chime in with the frustration of other business owners and heads of corporations: the quality of worker coming out of the high schools is not up to standard. Workers need to show up on time and be ready to work. They need to be able to get along and work well with others. There is often an air of entitlement with younger employees. They think that their mere presence is a gift to the business without hard work. So we took the requests for a stronger worker to the classroom to see if WUCA! would make a difference. Coaching in the Classroom (CIC) was created and began as a pilot project in 2009, focusing on 7th – 12th-graders in a rural Iowa school district and a metro alternative school, capitalizing on our more than 28 years’ expertise in rural business and economic development. CIC identifies student's passions, and uses positive self-talk and goal-setting utilized by championship athletes to develop championship students in the classroom.

CIC morphed after its first year in the rural district into a process that addresses students’ behaviors that put them “at-risk” of not graduating on time with their class, as defined by the Iowa Department of Education.

The Four Criteria

  1. Not being proficient in numeracy and literacy on Iowa Assessments;
  2. Failing at least one class;
  3. Not participating in any school activity; and
  4. Poor attendance and/or habitual tardiness.

If a student has a “check” in two of the four categories, they are considered “at-risk.” This designation doesn’t mean the child has substance abuse problems, any mental deficiencies, or other issues that could label them “at-risk.” It simply means that these behaviors are red flags – indicators that a student is developing habits that aren’t good for their academic and personal success in life.

Recognizing that these students will likely remain in their communities as employees and business owners after graduation, CIC connects these “at-risk” criteria to the behaviors employers require in employees that impact a workforce: show up on time. Be a lifelong learner and remember your lessons. Participate with others. Do “A”-quality work and turn it in on time.

The reality of our classrooms today is that our students are being taught core fundamentals, but our educational system, government mandates, and lack of solid parenting don’t allow time or staff to help them bridge the gap between school learning and applicability to the workforce once they leave school.

Coaching in the Classroom believes that all students will succeed when their passions, purpose, and goals align with their personal and occupational visions. CIC seeks to be the bridge that keeps all students in school through graduation and encourages self-motivation and drive for success in today’s global workforce.

CIC Goals

  • Improve scores of standardized assessments and other examinations.
  • Instill entrepreneurial spirit and skills to help students see the possibility of being local business owners and leaders.
  • Strengthen the local workforce by reinforcing the relevance of classroom instruction material to their futures.
  • Improve self-esteem of students when they achieve personal success raising scores and feel more hopeful about their future options.
  • Experience positive movement from students on youth surveys that measure students’ sense of security, belonging, and other less tangible but extremely important indicators for success.
  • Improve behavior of students in the community.
  • Improve relationships between students, staff, and faculty in school.
  • Improve relationships between the school, students, and the community.

Due to many factors, rural communities are being forced to look for new ways to sustain their towns and school districts. In this ever-evolving environment, the area workforce is changing from a blend of white- and blue-collar workers to a more dominant blue collar workforce, often resulting in more college-educated children choosing to look in metropolitan areas for work. The students who remain in their home area are more likely students for whom school was a more challenging and less satisfying experience.

These are the fine, bright people who, sooner or later, will likely become mayors and run the communities, city councils, school boards, churches, and civic organizations, owning businesses within the community.

In addition to in-class presentations, discussions, and field trips, CIC can specifically link students with businesses of interest to their identified passions. Communities, especially those in rural areas, need to aggressively integrate these students to pursue business succession and workforce improvement strategies in the area to increase population and school enrollment.

CIC includes real-life stories about roles and expectations as employees compared to how their employers view them. For example, students learn that tattoos, piercings, and texting on the job they feel are personal expressions and rights can affect their hirability and longevity at a business.

We set in place individual academic, extracurricular, and work-related steps to identify how to make life vision become reality. Sometimes this includes self-reflection and that is really, really tough for this population of students. Heck, most people don’t reflect because we often don’t like what we see, but it’s necessary for growth. It’s a valuable tool. So we include exercises that require them to glimpse into themselves and what they want. We encourage that they deserve what they dream. And that often requires changing their behaviors.

Involvement of the local businesses to strengthen the workforce can take place through relevant speakers to the classes, identifying gaps in businesses needed by the community, how students can look to fill the gaps, and understand how their high school learning will impact their future goals. It also takes the community to want to reach out to the students to welcome, engage, and recognize the talents they have to offer. Plus, community members need enthusiasm and patience to teach students the skills they need to learn.

In addition to all the activities and exercises included in CIC, we have encouraged students by

  • Telling them the criteria by which they have been measured since kindergarten. The mere knowledge of this “list” has been a revelation.
  • Telling them how to get off “the list” and that the ability to do so is completely within their power.
  • Helping them understand that their school attendance, classroom performance, attitude, and how they apply themselves at school matters to their ability to graduate and to future employment.
  • Ending every single class, and calling often through the halls, the single most important message from Coaching in the Classroom: make good choices. It hasn’t made us popular, but we’re known for it!

Results

  • Within months of CIC’s inception, students sent to the principal’s office for misbehavior was down more than 50 percent.
  • Students recognize that classroom work in core areas has direct impact on their future either in further education, enlisting in the military, or by remaining in or near their hometown and joining the workforce.
  • Student population considered “at-risk” has decreased from 41 to 12.3 percent.
  • The 2009 Freshman class set a goal for 100% of them to graduate on time and together. In 2013, they achieved the goal.

By identifying passions and aspirations with all students early in their school careers and helping them determine the steps to make their goals reality, students are more focused, better-behaved, and satisfied in high school, and better prepared whether they pursue a military career, go to college, or join the workforce upon graduation.

Habits Form Early. Living Them Is A Choice.

What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”

If you said those things, I want you to do something right now. 

Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?

How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?

Now go through the list and compare:

  • Work/Career
  • Where you live
  • Recreation
  • What you eat.
  • What time you eat
  • Hobbies
  • Social graces (or lack of)
  • Education
  • Cultural discrimination
  • Spirituality
  • Attitude about money
  • Spending habits
  • Appearance
  • Books/music/literature
  • Relationships

The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.

Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.

What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?

You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.

It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.

You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.

Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.

Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.

Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.

Teaching Students to be Community Leaders

Thanks for joining us again for a Coaching in the Classroom / CIC update! November 8 was election day 2011. As it's an "off" year, meaning the president isn't elected, so, sadly, fewer people made the trek to the polls to cast their ballots to elect their leadership. In fact, in our county, some elections were won by one vote! Your voice counts!

When you have the opportunity, please vote in whatever elections are taking place in your communities. This privilege is important in any town, but for rural areas, here's why we feel citizen engagement and knowledge is critical.

We took about 30 students to city hall in Coon Rapids, where we teach every week, to meet with Mayor Keith Dorpinghaus and City Clerk, Jesica Leighty. The students asked some really good questions, had a tour of the building, saw future development plans for the city, and learned about the importance of elections.

The reason this is really, really important for you to model is that we had the students raise their hands and about 20 of them (that's two-thirds of our high-schoolers with whom we work) plan to remain in the area post-graduation. This is a huge opportunity for community leaders and educators to connect with these students and bring them into the life of the community ahead of graduation so they feel WUCA! Welcome, Understood, Comfortable, and Appreciated for their talents, skills, ideas, energy, and enthusiasm!

We are teaching them to run these communities, because in not too long a period of time, these children are going to be sitting on city councils and school boards (in fact, we are working on getting a student seat soon on these two), on church committees, and will be running for mayor. They need to know how the city operates and part of what we do in CIC is to provide them with some learning they can use in the future in these capacities. So please, head out and vote! Take your student with you! If they are 18, get them registered ahead of time and tell them your feelings about candidates, the political climate, your values, and why you take the time to vote. Your student will likely listen and model you.

Please feel free to get in touch with us - education is a team sport! Be involved with your students to help them become healthy, productive, engaged leaders!

 

Searching for Your Eagle

What level of leader are you?

  • Eagles always make things happen
  • Eagles see and seize opportunities
  • Eagles influence the opinions and actions of others
  • Eagles add value to you and to the organization
  • Eagles draw eagles to them
  • Eagles provide ideas which help the organization
  • Eagles posses an uncommon great attitude
  • Eagles live up to their word

John Maxwell talks about his “Five Levels of Leadership” in  his books.  Where do you land as a  leader?  What kind of leader do you follow and respect?

POSITION Rights

Influence will not extend beyond the lines of your job description. People follow because they have to.  The longer you stay here, the higher the turnover and the lower the morale.

PERMISSION Relationships

People follow because they want to.  People will follow you beyond your stated authority.  This level allows work to be fun. Caution:  Staying too long on this level without rising will cause highly motivated people to become restless.

PRODUCTION Results

People follow because of what you have done for the organization.   This is where success is sensed by most people.  They like you and what you are doing.  Problems are fixed with very little effort because of momentum.

PEOPLE DEVELOPMENT Reproduction

People follow because of what you have done for them. This is where long-range growth occurs.  Your commitment to developing leaders will insure ongoing growth to the organization and to people.  Do whatever you can to achieve and stay on this level.

PERSONHOOD Respect

People follow because of who you are and what you represent. This step is reserved for leaders who have spent years growing people and organizations.  Few make it.  Those who do are bigger than life.

You want to choose a level that you are comfortable with to lead.  Always strive to move up the list to become the best leader you can. Leadership is all about getting other people to become what they can become.  Give a hand-up and you will receive rewards that you could not imagine.

Discover Your Purpose Through Be WUCA! Coaching

When 10 years from now is over, will you look back and wonder "where did those 10 years go?" Will you be asking yourself the question of "why am I still doing what I am doing?"

Whether you do something different or not, ten years from now will happen anyway. The choice you have to make immediately is that you can discover your purpose now and live it in the next 10 years or you can wait the same 10 years and look back and ask "why am I still doing what I am doing?"

Discovering your purpose is one of the most fulfilling exercises that you can do. Living your purpose is the most fulfilling life that you can live. When you live your purpose, you will help other people discover and live theirs.

Start now! Take some time now to ask yourself, "Am I living my purpose?"

 Score each statement with 1- low and 5 – high

 ‗  I recognize what I am good at doing.

‗  I fully utilize my most enjoyed skills and interests at work.

‗  My work furthers issues that I care deeply about.

‗  I am making a difference through my work in the world.

‗  I view most workdays with enthusiasm.

‗  I have developed my own philosophy on life and success.

‗  I take the necessary risks to live my philosophy.

‗  I feel a sense of meaning and purpose in my life.

‗  I have written goals that relate to my purpose.

‗  I live my life now instead of hoping that life will work out someday.

The higher the total, the closer you are to living your purpose.

 Find your purpose as an individual: what is the best use of your time, talent and passion? Have a conversation with your coach about your occupation. 

Why do I have the job I have?

Who does my work serve?

What do they do with what I provide?

Do they in turn, help others with what I give them?

Is there integrity in what I do for a living?

If I could be doing anything I wanted to do, assured that all my living expenses and material needs and desires would somehow be fulfilled, would I be working where I currently am employed or operate?

Are there any negative aspects to my work? Can I change any negative aspects?

What is positive about my work?

Can I achieve my purpose only in this job?

Do I wake up in the morning excited for the day, or do I dread what is ahead of me?

If I could wake up every morning, excited to face the day and eager to get to work, what would that day look like?

Decide to have a Be WUCA!(c) coaching session. It just might be the best 10 year investment that you could ever make.

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The Need for Approval from Others

"You must begin to trust yourself. If you do not, then you will forever be looking to others to prove your own merit to you, and you will never be satisfied. You will always be  asking others what to do and at the same time resenting those from whom you seek such aid." Author unknown When we are growing up, we are constantly told what do by others. Other people shape us and teach us about the world and ourselves. Rarely are we encouraged to listen to ourselves: our hearts, bodies, and minds. We are taught to value other's opinions more than our own.

Trusting ourselves is, therefore, something that doesn't come easily, and loving  ourselves is almost impossible, because we seek to please others and not ourselves. Just think, if we were all to take individual responsibility for our own lives and our own happiness, then there would be no need to call anyone else selfish, because we would not be dependent on others to make us happy or to validate our worth.

Lou Holtz, the great football coach said, “If you desperately need people to like you, you will never have their respect. You must be willing to tell people when they do not meet the standards of excellence and you must be willing to correct their mistakes. You must be willing to look for the things people do right. More importantly, if we catch people doing things right, that will motivate them and make them enthusiastic and give them the passion to do the correct thing.”

Holding people accountable for their actions is an important step in leadership. Building people up to become what they can become requires accountability. A person cannot become what they can become when they do anything halfway. When a person does not do their best, they not only cheat other people, but they cheat themselves.  Everyone loses out on something that they can get of value from you.

The best way to become the best you can become is to be of service to others. So what does lead to success for people?

1. Have passion for what you do.

2. Persist and work through all of the rejections, critisisms, and people that will tell you you will not succeed.

3. Be good at what you do.

4. Listen and observe others and solve their problems.

5. Serve others something of value.

The best way to get approval from others, is to give others approval. A leader isn't good because they are right, they are good because they are willing to learn from others and to trust others.

Be WUCA!(c) to others. Be Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate!

Coaching in the Classroom - students at risk?

If you have a student in an Iowa public school, you'll be interested in following what we do with Coaching in the Classroom (CIC). If you don't live in Iowa, CIC concepts work anywhere! We have begun our third year working with 7th - 12th-graders in the Coon Rapids-Bayard School District. We'll use this CIC blog to give a weekly update of our activities, giving you conversation starters to consider implementing in your own homes with your own families and we bet you learn something about each other in the process!

Let's start with some basic info.

When a child begins kindergarten in Iowa, full of life, energy, ideas, and attitude, the school district, under direction from the Iowa Department of Education, begins to track their behaviors. Behaviors that we use from the DE are these: if students are tardy to school and/or class, have low scores on standardized tests like Iowa Test of Basic Skills, are failing any classes, and are not participating in extracurricular activities. If a student meets any two of these four criteria, the local school district and the DE consider them "at-risk" of not graduating on time with their class.

In the CR-B district, to uphold their mission to educate all students, high school students with at least two criteria become students of Coaching in the Classroom, where they have the opportunity to learn a host of concepts not regularly found in general classroom settings. We know that many students with whom we work are more "creative" in school, and tend to have a more difficult time being a successful student. They likely will be the students who either attend a two-year trade or community college program, or enter the workforce upon graduating from high school. These students will likely run our towns in rural areas someday. To encourage and engage them, CIC teaches workplace and social skills, leadership behaviors, character development, positive communication, and citizenship, expecting that they will be future mayors, sit on school boards, church committees, city councils and boards of supervisors.

Two critical things to keep in mind:

  • the local school district is not punishing the student by keeping track of them and their behaviors. In fact, watching students is an excellent way to encourage them to take school more seriously and encourage them to try new things.
  • whether or not a student is considered "at-risk" is completely within their own power to change. All that needs to be done is get to school and class on time. Take tests seriously and do their best. Study hard so they pass all their classes. Sign up for an activity to learn some teamwork or new skills. School officials look at behaviors each semester and if a student has changed their own behavior so that DE criteria no longer pertains to them, they are off the "at-risk" list.

Check with your school's office to see how your child measures up. Then take the opportunity to shape some successful behaviors with your student. If you need some help, let us know!

Have a Be WUCA!(c) week!

 

Formula to Change Your Life

Have you ever wished that you could know a formula for changing something in your life that you wanted to change?  I am going to give you a formula that all you have to do is insert the variable that you want changed. Your Body   +  Your Brain +   Your Beliefs and Habits  = Your Results

Your body is your computer hardware, your brain is your operating system, it can be a mac or a pc, and your beliefs and habits are the software that you use to progam your system.  The system that you have is only programmed to do what you tell it to do. So if you want to change something about you, you have to change your programming, change the software that you use.

You have a conscious mind and you have a subconscious mind.

Your conscious mind:

  • Accepts or reject any idea or goal.
  • Imagines and decide what you want to achieve.
  • Determines what actions you need to take.
  • Discusses your goals and dreams and cause you to get excited about them.
  • Gets you to take action for a short period of time.

Your subconscious mind:

  • Controls 96% of all your decisions in your emotions, perceptions and behaviors.
  • Controls all of your life supporting systems.
  • Can not tell the real from the imagined.
  • Immediately will act upon any idea impressed upon it.

The reason that it takes time to change something about us is that we do not maintain our focus on our change.  We want immediate results and when we don’t see any change, we give up and tell ourselves that this stuff does not work.

You have to persist in your change to be successful.  You have to  reprogram your computer to start living the change.  It takes 30 – 90 days to change a habit.

Now put emotion to what you want to change. Your emotional mind is 35% more powerful than your logical mind. Put emotion to it and you will get to your goal much faster. Emotion will hijack your logical mind and move you toward whatever and wherever you have emotion attached.

Your subconscious mind always moves toward your thinking. Keep focused on the change and persist until you are successful.

Find yourself a coach to help you focus on what you want to change.  Athletes need someone to guide them to success.  If you want to be successful, do what successful people do.

A tool to implement 21st-Century Constructs in Iowa: Coaching in the Classroom

Coaching in the Classroom

Implementing  21st Century Iowa Core Curriculum 

Coaching in the Classroom (CIC) is a passion-identifying, goal-setting, workplace and leadership development program best implemented with at-risk students. CIC guides students in creating direction in their life through passion, purpose, vision, and goals.  It also helps students create new businesses and/or transition into buying existing businesses someday in their communities.

Kim and Frank Spillers are weekly in-class coaches for about 80 7th-12th-grade students at Coon Rapids-Bayard High School (CR-B) and about 15 students at the Metro West Learning Academy, an alternative school for 6 Des Moines-area feeder high schools. Unofficially, CR-B has actually implemented the 21st-Century Constructs through CIC.

We ran year 1 of CIC in 2009-2010 at CR-B as a pilot with 7th-12th-graders. Two very encouraging results came that first year:

  • 34% of all the 7th & 8th-graders met or exceeded the grade goals they set for the Spring 2010 semester, plus,
  • 45% of the students on the “at-risk” list Fall 2009 were not on the list Fall 2010.

These results, plus the individual accomplishments of some of the  students, encouraged the CR-B administration and school board to bring us back for the 2010-11 school year, with results still being tabulated. We eagerly and gratefully return this fall for year 3.

CIC at CR-B works with all 7th-12th-graders, but concentrates on those identified “at-risk” by the Iowa Department of Education, as monitored by tardiness to school and classes, low grades on standardized tests, participation in extracurricular activities, and failing grades in 1 or more classes.

Elements taught through Coaching in the Classroom come from more than 23 years of economic development experience in rural areas. Our knowledge stems from being business owners who have hired workers and met payrolls, visiting with business owners, and working at local, state, and federal levels of community development.

Coaching in the Classroom and the Iowa Core Curriculum’s 21st-Century Universal Constructs

Below, you will find a list of the Fall 2010-11 semester topics we've discussed, presented, and around which have enjoyed activities in and out of the classroom.  Coaching in the Classroom includes all six constructs:

  • Critical thinking
  • Complex Communication
  • Creativity
  • Collaboration
  • Flexibility and Adaptability
  • Productivity and Accountability

A partial list of Coaching in the Classroom topics: 

  • Though students don’t always agree, they are told that every single adult in their school building wants them to succeed.
  • Kinesiology – how internal and external language affects you physically.
  • Identifying their passions – what they love to do, what future they can develop to live out their passions, and what goals they need to accomplish to get them there.
  • They discover their personality type to better know who they are, how to get along with others, and how to use this information to succeed in school and relationships.
  • Brain development and how our thoughts lead to actions.
  • 96% of our decisions are subconscious habits. That means only 4 percent of our decisions are made through our actual, conscious thought on any given day. This makes your positive subconscious critical to success.
  • C  + A = R. For every single circumstance in our lives, our Action gives us the Results. If we want a different outcome, we must change our response to an event. Positive responses bring positive outcomes. Our responses are choices that we make.
  • When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. Dr. Wayne Dyer
  • The importance of being committed to learn every day of their lives. For them, learning is their job right now, and requires commitment for success in every single class.
  • The importance of legible handwriting and speaking – first impressions matter when you apply for a job of any type.
  • How visualizing a goal can help in your achievement of that goal.
  • Make your goals SMART: specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely.
  •  What makes you feel welcome, understood, comfortable, and appreciated? Do you do that for others in your life?
  • How they feel their communities feel about them; creating positive, supportive community.
  • THINK YOU CAN!
  • Encouragement to students to participate, and community leaders to allow / include students at input and decision making levels in town activities.
  • How it feels to many students to have to be the "adult" in their homes because the adults in their lives are not making safe or good choices.
  • Getting out of the “I’m a victim” mentality.
  • Be responsible for your actions.
  • What behaviors are sabotaging your progress? Reflection is hard and uncomfortable.
  • The importance of unity and teamwork to prepare for success and to be good workers.
  • To look on the labels they may have of being ADD/ADHD as strengths they can use and realize these labels won’t matter once out of school and in the workplace.
  • The importance of being punctual, dressed appropriately, when to use technology, how to talk to and with people, and always display respectful attitudes.
  • Recognize change takes time, determination, and may be painful.
  • Peer pressure to make good / poor decisions. “All of us are one poor decision away from ruining ,our life at any given day.”
  • Creative decision making, the steps needed, and who is included in decisions.
  • For what are students grateful? They have very long lists! When you are grateful for what you receive, you’ll likely receive more. Focus + Act = Receive.
  • Question and learn about life and why things happen! Be curious!
  • Be involved in your city, county, state, and national politics. Your voice makes a difference. (Continuous classroom encouragement and field trip to Iowa Capitol.)

We really thank you for taking the time to learn about Coaching in the Classroom. We’d love to visit with you about bring CIC to your school.

Take care and Be WUCA!!!

BE WUCA!

When you create a BE WUCA environment, customers will return, communities will grow, strangers will become friends, and disagreements will decrease. We invite you to “BE WUCA!” A way to treat others!

For example: Many communities are not growing because they are not practicing BE WUCA! If you have more people that were born and raised, native-born, in your community than have moved in from outside of your community you might not be as welcoming as you think you are.

How do others want to be treated is answering the question of how do you want to be treated?  What will make me feel:

WELCOME

UNDERSTOOD

COMFORTABLE

APPRECIATED

Welcome means to feel at home.  What will make others feel at home in my presence? Do you have a look of approachability?  Welcome others when they come into your  circumstances and meet them at their circumstance.

Understood is getting to understand what they want before you have them understand what you want.  Understanding is valuing another’s point-of-view, meeting them more than halfway in their viewpoint and developing empathy for their circumstance. As Stephen Covey says, "seek first to understand then to be understood."

Comfortable is a personal feeling.  When a person is comfortable, they have developed a sense of trust of you. Building that relationship takes integrity and following through with your promises and commitments. Giving them a feeling that they would like to return and develop a deeper relationship.

Appreciated is the most valued feeling a person desires. Most employees want appreciation from their employers more than they want an increase in money. It is just plain Gratitude in Action. Just like the saying goes; “a pat on the back goes so much farther than a kick in the pants!”

BE WUCA!  A process to grow your business and turn customers into valued friends. A process that will focus your business, community, family, and church from a maintaining strategy to a growth strategy.

Let us help you create your new growth.