What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”
If you said those things, I want you to do something right now.
Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?
How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?
Now go through the list and compare:
- Where you live
- What you eat.
- What time you eat
- Social graces (or lack of)
- Cultural discrimination
- Attitude about money
- Spending habits
The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.
Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.
What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?
You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.
It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.
You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.
Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.
Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.
Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.