Habits Form Early. Living Them Is A Choice.

What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”

If you said those things, I want you to do something right now. 

Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?

How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?

Now go through the list and compare:

  • Work/Career
  • Where you live
  • Recreation
  • What you eat.
  • What time you eat
  • Hobbies
  • Social graces (or lack of)
  • Education
  • Cultural discrimination
  • Spirituality
  • Attitude about money
  • Spending habits
  • Appearance
  • Books/music/literature
  • Relationships

The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.

Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.

What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?

You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.

It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.

You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.

Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.

Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.

Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.

What you believe directs your life. What song do you sing?

Do you remember what it was like when you were a kid; when you believed that you could be anything you wanted when you grew up? When you believed you could do anything? The possibilities were endless! What was your dream?

 You could be a policeman or woman. A doctor. An astronaut. A master gardener!

 You believed that anything was possible.

 And it was.

 You didn't have any doubts or judgments.

You didn't see all the reasons "why not." You just saw the "What if?"

 Do you still believe that you can be anything you want and have everything you daydream about?

 Why not?  What happened?

 Why don't we still believe money grows on trees?

Why don't we still believe that we can have it all?

Why don't we still believe that we are worthy enough?

Why do we see all the reasons why it won't work, or why we can't do it, or why it's not possible?

 It's not your fault that you believe this way.

As we've lived life, other people told us that a certain thing isn't possible. We've been told that money doesn't grow on trees, you have to work hard, life is a struggle, you aren't good enough, or smart enough, or attractive enough. Our beliefs changed.

At first, we didn't believe them. We were still kids at heart and thought we could have it all. But then we tried and failed.

And the more we tried (or saw others try) and fail, we started adopting those beliefs as "truths" or "facts." Through the years, they became our beliefs. We started saying and believing:

Money doesn't grow on trees.

I'm not good enough.

I'm not smart enough.

Nothing ever works out for me.

Other people are just lucky.

Life is hard.

The list goes on.

Well, we're here to tell you that's not the truth! Just because someone else's voice sings that song doesn't make it true for you. That's not who you are! You are so much more valuable and have so much more to offer! These messages, these songs, are other peoples' old, worn out, self-sabotaging beliefs. If these are the tunes singing in your head, are you still pursuing your dream?

Every action you take and decision you make is a result of your beliefs. You CAN change your beliefs to change your life, but you must be intentional and determined every day - sometimes every SECOND of every day - to direct your life where you want to go.

Your beliefs literally control your life. What song are you singing? With whom are you hanging out? What song do they sing? Do the people in your life cheer you on? Maybe you could use and appreciate some new cheerleaders who will encourage you and help you see who you truly are and the possibilities that are waiting for you!

With a happy outlook, a positive attitude, an encouraging support system, and "I can do it" beliefs in place, you will change your life and your future through your own actions. You can make decisions that will allow you to live the life you want - a life of freedom and joy! Bring back your childhood optimism, sing your own song, and go after your dream!