Bullying in the Schools Will End When the Adults Stop Bullying Each Other.

To Be WUCA! is to Welcome, by having a great attitude; Understand, by listening and being open to other’s ideas; being Comfortable in knowing your own passion, purpose, vision, and goals; and Appreciating by expressing gratitude. It is a simple idea. Maybe too simple, because this is not what I see people living.

This is why I am more than a little perplexed at blaming youth for bullying.

Yes, they do need to take responsibility for their actions and yes, we do have a problem with bullying.

But are we focusing on the root cause?

Look around!

All I have to do is look in my email inbox or on my Facebook page to see each political party calling people in the other party names, or women telling men and men telling women that each other’s opinion does not matter, signs and sayings that people post inferring that when people think a certain way, they are somehow un-American or un-Christian, or that if you are not born in this country you are not paying taxes and using all of our services for free.

Have you been watching the presidential campaigns? It is no wonder that we have kids that bully.

We have grown men, who want to be President of this nation and represent all of us, calling each other “liar” and pointing fingers telling them that what they think and what they do is wrong. Politicians shout on television and radio waves saying others are “stupid” for stopping “this idea” from going forward.

And people send money to support this type of behavior.

When adults in communities gossip in coffee shops or in beauty parlors about how so-and-so got to the top by lying and cheating, are they simply jealous of someone’s success? The message is they want to see other people fail.

Or radio talk show hosts and writers hiding behind "free speech" call others derogatory names.

What kind of modeling are we doing as adults? Do we say, “If your values are not like mine, you are wrong?”

Back to students.

Our schools are reflections of our communities: test scores, people on free and reduced lunch, bullying, lack of motivation, and lack of respect for teachers are examples of community life.

Kids are blamed on how big a problem bullying is in schools with when all you may have to do is look within the families and the community.

What is the matter with kids today? Look to the adults that model behavior.

What is the answer to bullying?

Adopt a Be WUCA! strategy in your family, community, church, and school - in all areas of your life! Live to

 Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate others.

We’ll be amazed at the turnaround this country will see.

Rural America, You Have So Much Potential

Growing up, my mother was told by my teachers that “I had so much potential!” The problem was I did not see my potential because I had such a limited view of myself and my teachers did nothing to pull what potential they saw out of me.  

It's the same with our communities. We cannot see from the inside what others see from the outside. We must draw out potential. 

I have a passion to build rural America because for more than 30 years, I have seen the innovation, passion, drive, business sense, and heart of people who love where they live and want others to love it. I have seen and know the potential of rural America - it's vastly more than agriculture! 

The result about potential is that rural America’s counties are losing more population than gaining.  The problem is not lack of buildings or industrial parks, bike paths, or lack of jobs.

The key to building rural America is relationships.

Communities must recognize and knock down the "walls" built through many years being jealous of other communities. For holding grudges from long-ago athletic competitions or school mergers where one community did not “get the building.” For family feuds created from generations of animosity toward each other. I know of one community who festered for 100 years before they realized how to grow.

You can draw out potential in your community by including new people who bring new ideas, new directions, and creative approaches to old problems. 

People will stay when they:

  • feel they belong. 
  • know that they belong to something bigger, with a vision for a better future.
  • see themselves as equal participants in community growth. 
  • know why the community is a good fit for them.
  • know that the community has a sense of purpose.

The role of community leaders is not to come up with the great idea, but to create an environment in which great ideas can happen, are encouraged, and are supported.

Ask these questions of your "newer" citizens to help your community see itself through the eyes of another, perhaps one whose grandparents aren't buried in the cemetery.
•    How long have you lived in this community?
•    Why do you think we continue to exist as a community?
•    For whom do you think we are a good community?
•    Tell me a time when you did not feel you belonged/were welcome in this community.

When you open your environment to Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate new people, new ideas and creative approaches to old problems, your school will increase enrollment, your tax base will increase, and you will have more volunteers. 

Want to draw out potential in your community? Check here for more ideas and call us to grow, 712-250-0275; kim@ghorizons.com.  http://www.bewuca.com/blog/relationship-economic-development-wuca-ize-your-community

 

Relationship is Everything

When examining the talent at any organization look at the culture, not the rhetoric – look at the results, not the commentary about potential. Here’s what an article in Forbes magazine reports:

·         More than 30% believe they’ll be working someplace else inside of 12 months.

·         More than 40% don’t respect the person they report to.

·         More than 50% say they have different values than their employer.

·         More than 60% don’t feel their career goals are aligned with the plans their employers have for them.

·         More than 70% don’t feel appreciated or valued by their employer.

So, for all those employers who have everything under control, you better start re-evaluating. There is an old saying that goes; “Employees don’t leave companies, they leave people." Regardless of tenure, position, title, etc., employees who voluntarily leave, generally do so out of some type of relationship disconnect with leadership and co-workers.

Every moment of every day you are in a relationship. Whether you are with another person, in traffic, at work, or alone in a room with just yourself, you are in a relationship.

Getting along in that relationship is an intentional act that begins only with you and has nothing to do with the other person. Only you create the result that you experience from that relationship.

How do I know this? By me changing my actions and doing everything that I write about and experience. Living WUCA! has changed every relationship in my life.

Relationships thrive when you intentionally:

Welcome
•    Words matter. Use words that build and heal. 
•    Accept responsibility for the results you are receiving and living.
Understand
•    Listen actively to what is being said by others; don’t just wait to talk. 
•    Deliberately create space for civil dialogue. Circles are best.
Comfort
•    Live your purpose through your passion. It is the best way others can live theirs. 
•    Achieve your vision with goals as stepping stones. Move toward the future you wish to create.
Appreciate
•    Express gratitude daily. Unexpressed gratitude is ingratitude.
•    Eulogize others while they are still alive. Let them hear their praises. 

If the nature of any relationship you are in is not going the way you want, you can be certain you are compounding the problem by continuing to give energy to the actions that you dislike or don’t want. When someone says they don’t get along with their parent or spouse or someone they work with, they are defining the relationship in terms of what they dislike. When your thoughts and words are on what you don’t want, it will continue to be the story of the relationship. If you want the relationship to improve, focus your energy on what you love about it and what you want it to be like.

What keeps you stuck in bad relationships boils down to two factors - which will change immediately - when you decide to act differently:

1.    How you decide to view your relationship.
2.   The actions you take that change you.

Your environment will change when you change your actions: all your thoughts, beliefs, and habits. 
When you stop blaming others for your past and your circumstances, you will start building the relationship that you have always wanted. Even with yourself.

When you learn the WUCA! Way, you will act the WUCA! Way, then you will teach others the WUCA! Way.

Living WUCA! improves your relationships so you can experience the world intended for you!

Make 2015 your Best Year yet! Take care, be well, Be WUCA!

 

Learn WUCA!      Act WUCA!      Teach WUCA!

Perception - Another Person's Reality

To really understand another person you need to understand how your filtering mechanism works.

Your filtering mechanism is your belief system of what you see or another word for that is paradigm. A paradigm is the belief that has been turned into a habit and has been programmed into you. it is how you perceive reality and why you act the way you do and live the way you do.

A paradigm is like railroad tracks. It creates a set direction for how you see the world. Everything you see, everything you’d do everything you perceive of other people and situations, is filtered through your paradigm. It becomes your reality.

So it is also with other people. Their paradigm or belief system filters the information that they take in.

In order to understand how another person perceives reality, you have to understand how they grew up, their culture. You have to understand their personality, and you have to understand their current situation. 

Get Your Head in the Game

One of the biggest challenges in meeting any goal, whether it be related to productivity, waking early, changing a habit, exercising, or just becoming happier, is finding the motivation to stick with it.

 If you can stick with a goal for long enough, you’ll almost always get there eventually. It just takes patience and motivation. Motivation is the key, but it’s not always easy, day in and day out, to find that motivation.

One way to get you there quicker, is with another person, a coach.

A goal-setting coaching process that will help you to understand the “why” and the “how” goals are achieved. If you have ever wanted to achieve that "magic" weight; if you have ever wanted to have the endurance; if you have ever wanted to earn a grade; if you have ever wanted to achieve any goal, then even before you even start your program, you will want to give yourself a “head” start to achieving your goals!

Individuals in all circumstances can and will reach any goal that they want to achieve - it all starts in your mind.  So, participate and “Get your Head in the Game” and focus to achieve your goals. Motivation is the key!

Coaching sessions include:

  • “It all starts with passion, purpose, vision, and action.”

  • “Understanding how your mind directs you to achieve your goals.”

  • “Identifying your passion to achieve your goal

  • "Remove any mind blocks that keep you from achieving your goals."

  • “Start with the end in mind and create a realistic goal for yourself.”

  • "Overcoming negative mind-chatter."

  • "Replacing the negative with the positive."

It does not matter where you are in life - high school, college, young, old, amateurs or professional; we all need help at times. We all get in our heads and can't see the victories that lie before us.

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Civility?

Name calling! Finger-pointing! Backbiting!

Blaming others seems to be the norm these days. Should it be?

Tear down this wall!

Years ago, East and West Germany became one nation. A wall was torn down. It is time our walls between differing ideologies, values and opinions come down.

Effective leaders cultivate a safe and supportive climate in which relationships are based on inclusivity, trust, and mutual respect. Only in a supportive environment can people feel safe to express differences of opinions and work toward “win-win” solutions.

This country and so many communities, groups, and political organizations need to listen to each other. Not just not talk and take positions, but to listen to why people hold a particular view. The environment we create teaches generations of individuals how to think about, talk about, talk to, and treat one another.

Listening is an action!

Listening is a skill that requires intentional development. Just as you needed to learn how to walk correctly, relationships require the skill to actively listen because much of the time when an issue arises, the problem on the surface usually has a problem behind it where the true issue lies.

We each view life and the issues we encounter through our own filters. Unique opinions and values form through our environment: the people we grew up with. Live and work around. Our experiences, thoughts, and perceptions about them. The values we have formed throughout our lives. We create environments everywhere. Family. Friends. Work. Worship. The grocery store. The car. Play.

Inherent in every relationship, conflict is a difference in perspectives. The diversity of perspectives within relationships helps generate ideas and facilitate change. If it is managed wisely, conflict is an opportunity. Listen for values to identify the issue.

Don't just talk about an issue, talk through it

The search for common ground on tough issues is more productive using a technique called "deliberative dialogue," seeking "why" people hold their position. Dialogue talks through an issue, not just takes a stand about - for or against - an issue. When you seek to understand the "why" others act the way they do, you discover a person's values. From there, you can work together to identify a positive outcome in a safe space. People can come together, talk through perspectives on issues, and find common ground that will create a better environment.

Consider these questions when identifying the "problem behind the problem." Be sure to intentionally involve all affected parties in the dialogue.

Naming the issue: What do you think is the problem? What bothers you?

Framing the issue: What can/should we do about the problem?

Deliberating to understand values: If we do what you suggest, what do you think would happen?

What would be fair? Effective?

Why would we be better off? How would we be better off?

What is the downside?

If there is a downside, would we change our minds? What different course could we pursue?

Acting together to find common ground: What would you and the affected parties be willing to do about the problem? What are you willing to give up to do what you want to do?

Are you seeking civility? Check your environment. See if people listen to and respect one another. If you need a technique, try deliberative dialogue.

"The Be WUCA! Way" teaches civility.

Learn - Do - Teach.

Responsible Citizenship and Change

WUCA!-led communities are more open-minded, approachable, tend to have more newcomers, and they allow new people to make new ideas happen. Studies show U.S. state populations seeing growth have a higher percentage of newcomers than native-borns. A rural community that I once worked with told about a person who had moved to that community within the last two years. With three children enrolled in the district, she was at a school board meeting, and stood up to share her opinions on the issue at hand.

When she sat down, the lady next to her turned and told her that she had no right to talk at this meeting. The shocked woman asked why not. The woman replied that “she hadn’t lived here long enough.” Though she had children in the school, she'd only lived in the community a brief amount of time which, apparently, equaled her value and ability to contribute. In our town, we know people who moved to our community 30 years ago who still don’t feel they belong because their grandparents aren’t buried in the local cemetery.

As a leader, you need to look at your policies. Are they welcoming? As communities, counties, and states, do you allow newcomers to move in and do you embrace them? Yes, leaders love it when new companies come to town. There’s a ribbon-cutting for a new business,  a rousing welcome to all the new people to town, then, in a month, the excitement dies down and the new people that the community was excited about become  “those” new people with all those “strange” new ideas. Or sometimes you hear comments when they become successful, they must have done something “wrong” and “underhanded” to gain that accomplishment. Communities and people in general, have a habit of trying to pull successful people down to their level because there is a tendency to not like people who are doing better than they are because they have such low self-esteem.

Really, we often only like change if the change doesn’t affect us.

The result is that the future remains the same because people often refuse to take their role as responsible citizens to make change that is necessary. It’s hard work. It is messy. It requires talking to people. It requires acknowledging the world is not as black and white as we thought. Change requires slogging through the “gray” of an issue to see it through the eyes of another’s experience. Change requires that we may have to give up our way and do it someone else’s.

Remember that for every result that you want, there is a certain way of thinking, believing, and acting. You can change without improving, but you cannot improve without changing.

For your community, school, workplace, and organization to become "WUCA!-ized" contact kim@ghorizons.com

Frank and Kimberlee Spillers are the co-authors of "The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along." Available at www.bewuca.com

 

Create Wealth The Be WUCA! Way

The best way to lead a great team is to create an environment that encourages individuals to communicate better, deal with others better, and help people like and trust each other better. Effective leaders realize that the thin line between fitting in and being welcomed is so close to feeling excluded and left out.

Effective leaders know that people want to belong somewhere. In a group. At work. At the worship center. In families. With friends! If you know you can use some help in this leadership area in your relationships, you're in good company.

When effective leaders lead The Be WUCA! Way, wealth is created in many different forms.

What comes to mind when you think of creating wealth? A room full of gold? Vacations? A new car? Bills paid off so you feel wealthy? The newest phone or device? These certainly can be pictures of building or having wealth.

Much larger than the economic sense, creating wealth is the act of building a person’s knowledge, experience, and abilities to build sustainability in community. When you create wealth with The Be WUCA! Way foundation of leadership, you create opportunities for all people to belong, participate in, and contribute.

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"Best training we have had in more than 13 years!"

When you create wealth The Be WUCA! Way, you change the way you look at things. You create wealth and healthy environments when you build people up, focus on making their lives better, and help others become what they dream about. You become a more effective leader when you encourage people The Be WUCA! Way, when you Welcome, Understand, Comfort, and Appreciate yourself and others. You will enjoy a sense of belonging!

Wealth creation begins with positive, forward-thinking, people-centered leadership making things happen! An effective leader will guide in identifying people’s passion and purpose because this is what really motivates us to perform, get things done, and do our very best work!

An effective leader will communicate a big-picture vision, assist to establish doable goals, and create an environment to achieve each and every one using and building people's talents along the way.

An effective leader allows - encourages - an individual to grow. When your words and actions build people, you will automatically strengthen businesses, create successful schools, excite communities, families, and organizations.

With effective leadership The Be WUCA! Way comes business and community growth because life will really be humming along and people will respond! Leaders set goals, always looking for and creating new pathways for people to engage. They generate new ways of seeing and acting on both persistent and emerging challenges that offer the possibility for change and authentic hope.

How do you rate your wealth creation? Do people feel they "belong" in your presence? Are you a good leader? Want to be a great leader?

Wherever you are in the world, your business, workplace, school, community, family, and organization will prosper when you put The Be WUCA! Way principles to work.

Learn to use them. Live them. You'll see a dramatic difference of wealth creation in your life! Step into being and creating leadership The Be WUCA! Way.

Live and Work Your Passion

By Frank Spillers

When you started your career, you could feel the passion! Ready to take on the world and you knew that you were in the right place at the right time. Changing the status quo was your only agenda. Shaking it up and making the world a better place was a huge goal. Real passion - I’m equating it to a vigorous deep desire you feel within you that isn't easy to explain or define. This kind of passion propels you in a direction that seems motivated by a force beyond your control. It’s the inner excitement of being on the right path, doing what feels good to you, and what you know you were meant to do. It’s my contention that the mere presence of passion within you is all you need to fulfill your dreams.

Learn this innovative soft-skill technique working through our just-released popular book, The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along.

 

When you’re enthusiastic, nothing seems difficult. When you have passion, there are no risks: family dramas become meaningless, money isn't an issue, you know that you have the strength and the smarts, and the rules laid down by others have no bearing on you whatsoever. That’s because you’re answering your calling—and the you who is doing the answering is the highest part of you, or the God within.

Visualize yourself working passionately at what you love. What would you be doing? What would you be feeling? Would you be doing it for free? Passion includes sharp focus, clear vision of your future, total control and mastery over your work, a healthy body and an exuberant attitude!

Are you doing those things? Are you living those feelings?

If you are not, you are not living your passion.

Many people would tell me that it is not feasible to live your passion. I can’t make money doing what I love. I don’t have the time to do what I am passionate about. I am too busy trying to make ends meet to really do what I am passionate about.

Does that sound like you?

I would say that you are just making excuses not to do what you love. Why?

Passion is God’s way of pushing you in the direction that He has prepared for you.

There is always a way to do something. Look around and list all the people doing what you would love to do. You tell yourself, “I wish I could do what they do!”

How do you think they do it? What do they do differently than you are doing?

Living your passion on a daily basis is what you were made to do.

Listen to your self-talk, your mind-chatter. Everything that you tell yourself, someone taught you to think.

Telling you that you can’t do what you want to do. You have to do "this" to make a living. You can’t really make a living on what you love to do - no one can. It is unrealistic to think that you can be happy working. No one is really happy at their job. It is just a way to make a living.

Sound familiar?

It doesn't have to be that way. There are people living their passion. I am one of them.

My passion is to create innovative ways that build people to be what they want to become - help them find their passion.

Life is too short to try and just get by. We listen to other people way too often. Other people do not have our best interest at heart. They usually talk from their experiences. They mean well sometimes, but they want to remain in their comfort zone and they want everyone else to stay there also.

Step out, find what you are passionate about, pray that a way will present itself, and then go for it. Find an accountability coach to help you and regain your life.

You will be a much better person for it and those who love you will appreciate the new you!

Passion does not come overnight. Taking these proactive steps will see a gradual increase in your enthusiasm. You will begin working with a newly-fired zeal which becomes contagious, motivating others as well. You will have consciously taken charge of your life and the fruits of prosperity will be in sight once again.

Find your passion and change your world!

 

 

Use a Different Set of Eyes

The new book, The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along, uses grounded, research-based, take-charge "I can affect my future" techniques in an easy-to-understand format that will work. Using the exercises and ideas from its pages, you will change the way you look at things and, because you do, the things you look at will change. When you use a different set of eyes and create environments that create growth and productivity, you will live a Be WUCA! life.

A young boy, about seven, was racing his bike along a country road near his home.

As he approached an overpass, he braked hard, and came to a stop. There sat a huge truck with its trailer jammed tightly underneath the bridge.

Rescue vehicles, with lights flashing, blocked the only remaining open lane. A very large tow truck sat with engine idled, the driver puzzled at his repeated, failed attempts to dislodge the trailer.

Firefighters, policemen, truck driver, and several adult passersby gathered around the truck, all trying desperately to figure out how to free it from the bridge.

The young boy walked his bike up to the crowd. He caught the attention of a policeman. “What’s the matter, Officer?” he asked.

“The truck driver jammed his rig up under that bridge,” the patrol officer explained. “It’s stuck pretty tight. Tried several ways, but can’t seem to get it out.”

The young boy looked at the truck… then at the officer… and said matter-of-factly, “Why don’t they just let the air out of the tires?”

The officer was dumbfounded. He just shook his head, smiled at the boy, and said,

“Thanks kid!”

Have you ever looked for a way to solve a problem - maybe for days on end - turning it over and over to look at it different ways?

The successful way to solve any problem is to stop looking for the answer. When you relax and allow the problem to be solved, you find the solution that you never ever thought you would find and in a way that is all-of-a-sudden-obvious.

It's that way with your life. When you stop searching for the exact way that you think it should go and live your passion, a way will open to you. Live for today and tomorrow will open new doors that you did not see before.

Habits Form Early. Living Them Is A Choice.

What do you do that reminds you of your parents? Do you ever remember saying, “I will never do this to my kids” or “I will never be like my mom or my dad!”

If you said those things, I want you to do something right now. 

Look around you. How you have decorated? Remind you of someone?

How about disciplining your kids? Remind you of someone?

Now go through the list and compare:

  • Work/Career
  • Where you live
  • Recreation
  • What you eat.
  • What time you eat
  • Hobbies
  • Social graces (or lack of)
  • Education
  • Cultural discrimination
  • Spirituality
  • Attitude about money
  • Spending habits
  • Appearance
  • Books/music/literature
  • Relationships

The habits of your parents or the people that raised you, make an impact on you whether you like it or not. It is neither good or bad unless you want it to be.

Some traditions are good. They provide an anchor and stability. However, traditions just for the sake of "we have always done it, but it has no meaning" are not good.

What you have to do is go through each of the habits and see where they are getting you. Is the habit getting you closer to your goals or is it creating a barrier between where you are and where you want to be?

You either do something and like it or you make up your mind to make a conscious decision to change what you are doing.

It is up to you. It is not your parent's fault, it is not your grandparent's fault. It is not the politician’s, or your spouse’s fault. Nor is your teacher to blame.

You are who you are because you chose to respond in certain ways.

Life happens because of our responses to events. We create our world.

Do you like yours? Take responsibility for who you are, where you are, and why you live the way you live.

Live what you like and change what you don’t. It is up to you.

10 Leadership Lessons to Be WUCA!

I want to share with you this article that I received about leadership. It is a great example of how leaders can Be WUCA! with all their people. Enjoy the guest writing! Have a Be WUCA! week.

Frank

10 Leadership Lessons By Dave Lavinsky

Both my son and daughter play Lacrosse.  In fact, my son's gotten really good and played in a 'select' league this summer.

Even though I never played Lacrosse, I was a high school and college athlete (soccer & wrestling) and am a huge proponent of kids playing sports.

I was recently sent an article written by the US Lacrosse Association entitled "10 Steps to a Positive Lacrosse Experience" on what parents can do to foster a better experience for their kids. I didn't find the article eye-opening -- just common sense stuff in my opinion -- until I started thinking about it in a business sense.

Specifically, these steps can be directly applied and serve as a great guide for being an effective leader. Let me show you why...

#1: Be supportive of your child by giving encouragement and showing an interest in his or her team.

As a leader, you need to constantly give encouragement to and show sincere interest in your employees if you want to motivate them and boost their performance.

#2: Attend games whenever possible. If you cannot attend, ask about your child's experience, not whether the team won or lost.

Great leaders see what's going on in the workplace. They walk around. They attend meetings. And they speak to their employees to understand how things are going.

#3: Be a positive role model by displaying good sportsmanship at all times to coaches, officials, opponents, and your child's teammates.

Effective leaders are positive role models. If you don't act in the manner you'd like your employees to act, they won't.

#4: Let your child set his own goals and play the game for himself/herself. Be your child's "home court advantage" by giving him or her your unconditional support regardless of how well he or she performs.

Great leaders allow their employees to set goals. Sure, those goals need to align with the organization's goals. But employees are much more successful and dedicated to achieving goals that they set or helped establish. And employees who do not meet their goals should be supported and helped so that they improve and meet their goals the next time.

#5: Let the coach coach. Refrain from giving your child advice when he or she is playing.

If your organization has multiple levels of management, this comes into play. For example, if a manager tells an employee one thing, the organization's president needs to be careful not to tell that employee conflicting information. All management needs to be on the same page - this is simply done via effective communications.

#6: Respect the decisions of the referee or umpire. This is an important part of honoring the game. Your child will pay more attention to how you act than to what you say.

Things will not always go right in organizations. Some battles you will win, and others you will lose. When you lose a battle, the answer is never to point fingers or complain about external reasons that caused the failure. Rather, you must accept the failure, and figure out how to improve and avoid failure next time.

#7: Read the rule book. A full understanding of the rules will help you enjoy the game and educate others.

In my opinion, the only real rule book in business is the ethics rule book. By being a positive role model (see #3) and showing a high degree of ethics, your employees will most likely do the same.

#8: Get to know who is in charge. Meet with the leadership of the program, whether it's school-sponsored or recreational, to discuss topics such as cost, practice and game scheduling, insurance coverage, emergency procedures, etc.

Effective leaders get involved in their industries. They go to industry events. They meet other leaders. They sit on industry boards.

No organization operates in isolation. Understand and get involved in your industry. This will help with setting industry policies, finding partner organizations, and becoming well-known, which will positively influence sales, the number of quality employees seeking to join you, etc.

#9: Get involved! A great way to support your child's Lacrosse experience is by becoming a volunteer for the program. Some of the ways you can get involved: keep the scorebook, run the clock...

See #2 -- make sure you circulate around your workplace and get involved.

#10: Sit back and enjoy the game. Remember, Lacrosse is played for FUN.

Great leaders enjoy the journey and not just the end result. Running an organization is hard work, but it should be fun. You should be doing what you love to do. And if your employees are motivated and truly care about the welfare of your organization, running your organization is an extremely rewarding experience.

Dave Lavinsky is the president and co-founder of Growthink (www.growthink.com). Since 1999, Growthink has helped thousands of business owners start, grow and sell their businesses through a myriad of services including business planning and exit strategy planning.

Who Packed Your Parachute?

Do you honor and appreciate others? Do you stop to thank and recognize the members of your team? Do you consistently show appreciation to others, have an attitude of gratitude?

The story of Charles Plumb is inspiring and emphasizes the value of each individual of a team. Captain Charles Plumb, a graduate of the Naval Academy, whose plane, after 74 successful combat missions over North Vietnam, was shot down. He parachuted to safety, but was captured, tortured and spent 2,103 days in a small box-like cell.

Plumb tells the story, in his book, “ I’m No Hero”, that other people are helping you get to where you want to be, even though you don’t realize they are there.

After surviving the ordeal, Captain Plumb received the Silver Star, Bronze Star, the Legion of Merit and two Purple Hearts, and returned to America and spoke to many groups about his experience and how it compared to the challenges of everyday life.

Shortly after coming home, Charlie and his wife were sitting in a restaurant. A man rose from a nearby table, walked over and said, "You're Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!"

Surprised that he was recognized, Charlie responded, "How in the world did you know that?" The man replied, "I packed your parachute." Charlie looked up with surprise. The man pumped his hand, gave a thumbs-up, and said, "I guess it worked!"

Charlie stood to shake the man's hand, and assured him, "It most certainly did work. If it had not worked, I would not be here today."

Charlie could not sleep that night, thinking about the man. He wondered if he might have seen him and not even said, "Good morning, how are you?" He thought of the many hours the sailor had spent bending over a long wooden table in the bottom of the ship, carefully folding the silks and weaving the shrouds of each chute, each time holding in his hands the fate of someone he didn't know.

Plumb then began to realize that along with the physical parachute, he needed mental, emotional and spiritual parachutes. He had called on all these supports during his long and painful ordeal. Even though at the time, he did not know that he would need to call on what someone taught him, what parachute he was going to need at a specific time.

Who might be packing your parachute? Or better yet, are you packing parachutes for other people? Appreciate the opportunity to make someone’s life better.

Creating a Be WUCA! Community Includes the Youth

Today’s communities are concerned with keeping their youth and attracting young people to live work and play. Communities across the country are pursuing the same families so special attention is needed to stand above the rest. Businesses need to look at their policies and ask themselves if they are family-friendly. Making a Be WUCA!, family-friendly community begins with two criteria:

  • Provide quality early care and education facilities and;
  • Include youth in all community decisions.

Why should businesses and communities be concerned about their employee childcare problems?

Problems with childcare can adversely affect the job performance of working parents by increasing absenteeism, tardiness, turnover rates, and recruiting and training costs. These, in turn, can adversely affect productivity and work quality and ultimately the competitiveness of the businesses that employ these workers. A study done by AT&T of more than 5,000 of its employees found that 57 percent of the women and 33 percent of the men with children under the age of six had lost time from work in the preceding month due to childcare problems (Fernandez).

In the past, such problems with childcare would be of little concern to employers since few employees were affected and there always seemed to be other workers willing to take the place of those who quit. The labor market today and into the foreseeable future is radically different. The old problem of finding enough employment for rising numbers of workers is now being replaced by the new problem of locating enough workers to fill new jobs requiring technical skills generated by an expanding economy.

Research shows that work-family benefits have a direct impact on employee recruitment and retention. Vanderkolk and Young (1991) studied a small textile manufacturing company in the Southwest that was experiencing a 40 percent turnover rate. The turnover rate dropped dramatically to seven percent after the implementation of a childcare program.

It is critical that employers be able to attract and retain good, productive workers in order to stay competitive in the market. Given the changing composition of America’s labor force and the impact childcare problems can have on worker productivity, businesses should find employer-assisted childcare a cost-effective way to control labor costs and enhance worker productivity.

Be WUCA! Communities Create A Positive Vision for Its Young People!

At a time when many people feel overwhelmed by the problems and challenges facing children and adolescents, communities across the country need to discover new energy in working together toward a positive vision for young people.

Instead of focusing only on reducing risks and intervening in problems, communities need to rebuild and support the foundation of development all young people need.

Uniting a community to nurture the positive development of youth is much like playing in a jazz ensemble. Each musician must know the tune and listen to the other ensemble members; all players must improvise together--sometimes taking the lead and sometimes blending into the background. To create a community-wide commitment to youth, all the "players" need to be an ensemble working toward a common vision of what is needed to promote the healthy development of young people.

If you had a choice to live in a community that did not care about its youth or live in a community that engaged youth, into which community would you want to move your family? Think about it: all counties think they have great schools but I believe all parts of the community are needed to assist youth in education and to recognize as this is the place they wish to live or return with their families because of the importance that is placed on youth.

Teaching Students to be Community Leaders

Thanks for joining us again for a Coaching in the Classroom / CIC update! November 8 was election day 2011. As it's an "off" year, meaning the president isn't elected, so, sadly, fewer people made the trek to the polls to cast their ballots to elect their leadership. In fact, in our county, some elections were won by one vote! Your voice counts!

When you have the opportunity, please vote in whatever elections are taking place in your communities. This privilege is important in any town, but for rural areas, here's why we feel citizen engagement and knowledge is critical.

We took about 30 students to city hall in Coon Rapids, where we teach every week, to meet with Mayor Keith Dorpinghaus and City Clerk, Jesica Leighty. The students asked some really good questions, had a tour of the building, saw future development plans for the city, and learned about the importance of elections.

The reason this is really, really important for you to model is that we had the students raise their hands and about 20 of them (that's two-thirds of our high-schoolers with whom we work) plan to remain in the area post-graduation. This is a huge opportunity for community leaders and educators to connect with these students and bring them into the life of the community ahead of graduation so they feel WUCA! Welcome, Understood, Comfortable, and Appreciated for their talents, skills, ideas, energy, and enthusiasm!

We are teaching them to run these communities, because in not too long a period of time, these children are going to be sitting on city councils and school boards (in fact, we are working on getting a student seat soon on these two), on church committees, and will be running for mayor. They need to know how the city operates and part of what we do in CIC is to provide them with some learning they can use in the future in these capacities. So please, head out and vote! Take your student with you! If they are 18, get them registered ahead of time and tell them your feelings about candidates, the political climate, your values, and why you take the time to vote. Your student will likely listen and model you.

Please feel free to get in touch with us - education is a team sport! Be involved with your students to help them become healthy, productive, engaged leaders!

 

What You Become Starts With How You Believe You Are

When you Be WUCA! you will see a transformation in how others act toward you and how you feel about yourself! I have learned that as you think, you become, as do your expectations. It takes effort, but with a little practice and some outside coaching, you will be able to change your inner dialogue and consequently change your outcomes. To become, you have to first believe…

How do you become a good student?                                    You believe that you are.

How do you become a good teacher?                                    You believe that you are.

How do you become a good administrator?                         You believe that you are.

How do you become a good athlete?                                     You believe that you are.

How do you become a good coach?                                        You believe that you are.

How do you become a good musician?                                  You believe that you are.

How do you become a good debater?                                    You believe that you are

How do you become a good writer?                                        You believe that you are.

How do you become a good actor?                                         You believe that you are.

How do you become a good mentor?                                     You believe that you are.

How do you become a good parent?                                      You believe that you are.

 Remember the formula:  E+R=O (Event +Response=Outcome)

When you change your response (belief), you change your outcome. See the difference in these approaches from Global Horizons and Dr. Wayne Dyer:

From:   "We’ve always fought in this relationship."

To:        "I’ll work at being peaceful and not allow anyone to bring me down."

From:   "My children have never shown me any respect."

To:        "I intend to teach my children to respect all of life, and I’ll treat them in the same way."

From:   "I’m so annoyed with my family. They just don’t understand me and they never have."

To:        "I love my family; they don’t see things my way, but I don’t expect them to. I’m totally focused on my own intention, and I send them love."

From:   "I make myself sick trying to please everyone else."

To:        "I’m on purpose and doing what I signed up to do in this lifetime."

From:   "I feel so unappreciated by those I serve that it sometimes makes me cry."

To:        "I do what I do because it’s my purpose and my destiny to do so."

From:   "No matter what I do or say, it seems as if I can’t win."

To:        "I do what my heart tells me to do with love, kindness, and beauty."

“Why is everyone here so happy except me?"

"Because they have learned to see goodness and beauty everywhere," said the Master.

‘Why don’t I see goodness and beauty everywhere?’

"Because you cannot see outside of you what you fail to see inside.

When you change your response to situations to a new way of looking at the world, your world will change. Make it a habit this week that you will move from not believing in yourself to believing that you will literally move toward what you believe and think about.

 Let no one stand between you and your belief. It is the only thing that has built dreams, created ambitions, and achieved success. Be WUCA!

Searching for Your Eagle

What level of leader are you?

  • Eagles always make things happen
  • Eagles see and seize opportunities
  • Eagles influence the opinions and actions of others
  • Eagles add value to you and to the organization
  • Eagles draw eagles to them
  • Eagles provide ideas which help the organization
  • Eagles posses an uncommon great attitude
  • Eagles live up to their word

John Maxwell talks about his “Five Levels of Leadership” in  his books.  Where do you land as a  leader?  What kind of leader do you follow and respect?

POSITION Rights

Influence will not extend beyond the lines of your job description. People follow because they have to.  The longer you stay here, the higher the turnover and the lower the morale.

PERMISSION Relationships

People follow because they want to.  People will follow you beyond your stated authority.  This level allows work to be fun. Caution:  Staying too long on this level without rising will cause highly motivated people to become restless.

PRODUCTION Results

People follow because of what you have done for the organization.   This is where success is sensed by most people.  They like you and what you are doing.  Problems are fixed with very little effort because of momentum.

PEOPLE DEVELOPMENT Reproduction

People follow because of what you have done for them. This is where long-range growth occurs.  Your commitment to developing leaders will insure ongoing growth to the organization and to people.  Do whatever you can to achieve and stay on this level.

PERSONHOOD Respect

People follow because of who you are and what you represent. This step is reserved for leaders who have spent years growing people and organizations.  Few make it.  Those who do are bigger than life.

You want to choose a level that you are comfortable with to lead.  Always strive to move up the list to become the best leader you can. Leadership is all about getting other people to become what they can become.  Give a hand-up and you will receive rewards that you could not imagine.

Discover Your Purpose Through Be WUCA! Coaching

When 10 years from now is over, will you look back and wonder "where did those 10 years go?" Will you be asking yourself the question of "why am I still doing what I am doing?"

Whether you do something different or not, ten years from now will happen anyway. The choice you have to make immediately is that you can discover your purpose now and live it in the next 10 years or you can wait the same 10 years and look back and ask "why am I still doing what I am doing?"

Discovering your purpose is one of the most fulfilling exercises that you can do. Living your purpose is the most fulfilling life that you can live. When you live your purpose, you will help other people discover and live theirs.

Start now! Take some time now to ask yourself, "Am I living my purpose?"

 Score each statement with 1- low and 5 – high

 ‗  I recognize what I am good at doing.

‗  I fully utilize my most enjoyed skills and interests at work.

‗  My work furthers issues that I care deeply about.

‗  I am making a difference through my work in the world.

‗  I view most workdays with enthusiasm.

‗  I have developed my own philosophy on life and success.

‗  I take the necessary risks to live my philosophy.

‗  I feel a sense of meaning and purpose in my life.

‗  I have written goals that relate to my purpose.

‗  I live my life now instead of hoping that life will work out someday.

The higher the total, the closer you are to living your purpose.

 Find your purpose as an individual: what is the best use of your time, talent and passion? Have a conversation with your coach about your occupation. 

Why do I have the job I have?

Who does my work serve?

What do they do with what I provide?

Do they in turn, help others with what I give them?

Is there integrity in what I do for a living?

If I could be doing anything I wanted to do, assured that all my living expenses and material needs and desires would somehow be fulfilled, would I be working where I currently am employed or operate?

Are there any negative aspects to my work? Can I change any negative aspects?

What is positive about my work?

Can I achieve my purpose only in this job?

Do I wake up in the morning excited for the day, or do I dread what is ahead of me?

If I could wake up every morning, excited to face the day and eager to get to work, what would that day look like?

Decide to have a Be WUCA!(c) coaching session. It just might be the best 10 year investment that you could ever make.

Be WUCA!

Present a BE WUCA! Workshop

  Zero Risk!

Be WUCA! Workshop

When you partner with Global Horizons, LLC to present the Be WUCA! process, it’s teamwork and a money raiser for your cause!

We provide the workshop and your organization handles the publicity, registration, any refreshments, and meeting facilities. In return, we split the registration fees 50/50* with your organization.

Offer it to your membership, schools, communities, and businesses!

Cost

$45 per registration     $35 for a group that sends 5 or more

*call for rates for locations beyond 150 miles from our home office in Atlantic, IA

What will you gain?    GREAT ATTITUDES!

Be WUCA!

The purpose for Global Horizons, LLC, is to use big-picture visioning and passion to motivate and guide people to discover their unique talents to build the future.

When you deal with people positively, they will respond positively.

Using our proven process called Be WUCA!(c), we will teach people to create an environment to have others feel:

Welcome, Understood, Comfortable, and Appreciated

We describe how a person’s belief system is formed and the role our habits play in how we treat others.  This session is great to understand each other and to think about how we treat people on a daily basis.

This workshop will:

• Examine how positive and negative habits and beliefs are formed through all five senses.

• Define and understand paradigms/perceptions and how that affects a person’s well-being.

• Demonstrate and understand how thinking affects physical attributes of the body using applied kinesiology.

• Discover and understand differences in personalities and how to interact with them. This is a fun and visual way to deal with employees and customers!

• Create a purpose statement and define what exactly you want in all areas of your life.

• Define SMART goals. Write out specific goals in personal, business, financial, health, and recreation areas. Discover how positive affirmations affect successfully achieving goals.

• Develop the customer service approach to Be WUCA! If you would like to improve your personal and professional relationships, learn to welcome, understand, comfort, and appreciate.

 

Be WUCA!      Welcome          Understand           Comfortable            Appreciate

 

Present the Be WUCA! process. It is a great way to increase your customer satisfaction, employee morale, visitor return rate, tourism dollars, retail sales, graduation rates, teamwork, cooperation, volunteer participation, youth retention, your bottom line, and many more positive outcomes!

If you would like to improve your personal and professional relationships, learn to welcome, understand, comfort, and appreciate.

Be WUCA!(c)