Immigration Dialogues

Is your community wrestling with immigration?  Are you unsure or fearful about how to proceed? Do you see approaches that are ineffective and polarizing for your community?

Bring the Community Engagement Institute to help you talk through, not just about issues around immigration in non-threatening conversations. This on-site community engagement process uses value-seeking conversation called deliberative dialogue. Deliberative dialogue builds relationships that allow respectful understanding of, and appreciation for, the viewpoints of all people.

This dialogue setting creates an atmosphere where people can participate and understand why another person holds a view on an issue – to hear what has happened in their life to cause them to think the way they do. The result of deliberative dialogue is that relationships are built and common ground is discovered to move forward in non-violent ways.

 Global Horizons specializes in processes that engage people to work through issues, not simply discuss them. The philosophy generates relationships that stimulate any community of people to become the best they can be to work creatively and productively together. Healthy, respectful relationships must be in place for a community to move ahead. 

Relationship is Everything

When examining the talent at any organization look at the culture, not the rhetoric – look at the results, not the commentary about potential. Here’s what an article in Forbes magazine reports:

·         More than 30% believe they’ll be working someplace else inside of 12 months.

·         More than 40% don’t respect the person they report to.

·         More than 50% say they have different values than their employer.

·         More than 60% don’t feel their career goals are aligned with the plans their employers have for them.

·         More than 70% don’t feel appreciated or valued by their employer.

So, for all those employers who have everything under control, you better start re-evaluating. There is an old saying that goes; “Employees don’t leave companies, they leave people." Regardless of tenure, position, title, etc., employees who voluntarily leave, generally do so out of some type of relationship disconnect with leadership and co-workers.

Every moment of every day you are in a relationship. Whether you are with another person, in traffic, at work, or alone in a room with just yourself, you are in a relationship.

Getting along in that relationship is an intentional act that begins only with you and has nothing to do with the other person. Only you create the result that you experience from that relationship.

How do I know this? By me changing my actions and doing everything that I write about and experience. Living WUCA! has changed every relationship in my life.

Relationships thrive when you intentionally:

Welcome
•    Words matter. Use words that build and heal. 
•    Accept responsibility for the results you are receiving and living.
Understand
•    Listen actively to what is being said by others; don’t just wait to talk. 
•    Deliberately create space for civil dialogue. Circles are best.
Comfort
•    Live your purpose through your passion. It is the best way others can live theirs. 
•    Achieve your vision with goals as stepping stones. Move toward the future you wish to create.
Appreciate
•    Express gratitude daily. Unexpressed gratitude is ingratitude.
•    Eulogize others while they are still alive. Let them hear their praises. 

If the nature of any relationship you are in is not going the way you want, you can be certain you are compounding the problem by continuing to give energy to the actions that you dislike or don’t want. When someone says they don’t get along with their parent or spouse or someone they work with, they are defining the relationship in terms of what they dislike. When your thoughts and words are on what you don’t want, it will continue to be the story of the relationship. If you want the relationship to improve, focus your energy on what you love about it and what you want it to be like.

What keeps you stuck in bad relationships boils down to two factors - which will change immediately - when you decide to act differently:

1.    How you decide to view your relationship.
2.   The actions you take that change you.

Your environment will change when you change your actions: all your thoughts, beliefs, and habits. 
When you stop blaming others for your past and your circumstances, you will start building the relationship that you have always wanted. Even with yourself.

When you learn the WUCA! Way, you will act the WUCA! Way, then you will teach others the WUCA! Way.

Living WUCA! improves your relationships so you can experience the world intended for you!

Make 2015 your Best Year yet! Take care, be well, Be WUCA!

 

Learn WUCA!      Act WUCA!      Teach WUCA!

Civility?

Name calling! Finger-pointing! Backbiting!

Blaming others seems to be the norm these days. Should it be?

Tear down this wall!

Years ago, East and West Germany became one nation. A wall was torn down. It is time our walls between differing ideologies, values and opinions come down.

Effective leaders cultivate a safe and supportive climate in which relationships are based on inclusivity, trust, and mutual respect. Only in a supportive environment can people feel safe to express differences of opinions and work toward “win-win” solutions.

This country and so many communities, groups, and political organizations need to listen to each other. Not just not talk and take positions, but to listen to why people hold a particular view. The environment we create teaches generations of individuals how to think about, talk about, talk to, and treat one another.

Listening is an action!

Listening is a skill that requires intentional development. Just as you needed to learn how to walk correctly, relationships require the skill to actively listen because much of the time when an issue arises, the problem on the surface usually has a problem behind it where the true issue lies.

We each view life and the issues we encounter through our own filters. Unique opinions and values form through our environment: the people we grew up with. Live and work around. Our experiences, thoughts, and perceptions about them. The values we have formed throughout our lives. We create environments everywhere. Family. Friends. Work. Worship. The grocery store. The car. Play.

Inherent in every relationship, conflict is a difference in perspectives. The diversity of perspectives within relationships helps generate ideas and facilitate change. If it is managed wisely, conflict is an opportunity. Listen for values to identify the issue.

Don't just talk about an issue, talk through it

The search for common ground on tough issues is more productive using a technique called "deliberative dialogue," seeking "why" people hold their position. Dialogue talks through an issue, not just takes a stand about - for or against - an issue. When you seek to understand the "why" others act the way they do, you discover a person's values. From there, you can work together to identify a positive outcome in a safe space. People can come together, talk through perspectives on issues, and find common ground that will create a better environment.

Consider these questions when identifying the "problem behind the problem." Be sure to intentionally involve all affected parties in the dialogue.

Naming the issue: What do you think is the problem? What bothers you?

Framing the issue: What can/should we do about the problem?

Deliberating to understand values: If we do what you suggest, what do you think would happen?

What would be fair? Effective?

Why would we be better off? How would we be better off?

What is the downside?

If there is a downside, would we change our minds? What different course could we pursue?

Acting together to find common ground: What would you and the affected parties be willing to do about the problem? What are you willing to give up to do what you want to do?

Are you seeking civility? Check your environment. See if people listen to and respect one another. If you need a technique, try deliberative dialogue.

"The Be WUCA! Way" teaches civility.

Learn - Do - Teach.

Use a Different Set of Eyes

The new book, The Be WUCA! Way, The ART of getting along, uses grounded, research-based, take-charge "I can affect my future" techniques in an easy-to-understand format that will work. Using the exercises and ideas from its pages, you will change the way you look at things and, because you do, the things you look at will change. When you use a different set of eyes and create environments that create growth and productivity, you will live a Be WUCA! life.

A young boy, about seven, was racing his bike along a country road near his home.

As he approached an overpass, he braked hard, and came to a stop. There sat a huge truck with its trailer jammed tightly underneath the bridge.

Rescue vehicles, with lights flashing, blocked the only remaining open lane. A very large tow truck sat with engine idled, the driver puzzled at his repeated, failed attempts to dislodge the trailer.

Firefighters, policemen, truck driver, and several adult passersby gathered around the truck, all trying desperately to figure out how to free it from the bridge.

The young boy walked his bike up to the crowd. He caught the attention of a policeman. “What’s the matter, Officer?” he asked.

“The truck driver jammed his rig up under that bridge,” the patrol officer explained. “It’s stuck pretty tight. Tried several ways, but can’t seem to get it out.”

The young boy looked at the truck… then at the officer… and said matter-of-factly, “Why don’t they just let the air out of the tires?”

The officer was dumbfounded. He just shook his head, smiled at the boy, and said,

“Thanks kid!”

Have you ever looked for a way to solve a problem - maybe for days on end - turning it over and over to look at it different ways?

The successful way to solve any problem is to stop looking for the answer. When you relax and allow the problem to be solved, you find the solution that you never ever thought you would find and in a way that is all-of-a-sudden-obvious.

It's that way with your life. When you stop searching for the exact way that you think it should go and live your passion, a way will open to you. Live for today and tomorrow will open new doors that you did not see before.